My boyfriend has expressed to me many times that he likes putting it all down my throat and holding my head/taking control etc. I like it too, but a close friend of mine told me that was abuse?? Because he initiates? I love making him happy, but thoughts?
If you’re consenting with it, it’s all good. If you don’t want that to happen and he still does it, that’s abuse
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Anonymous3w
If it’s consent and you guys got safe words/things to use when it becomes too much then no, not abuse. If you’re doing it just to please him, that’s a little iffy but still not abuse
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Anonymous3w
The only way for it to be abuse is if he actually hurting you and didn’t say sorry after the fact. However what you are describing is just normal rough s*x, so in that case your friend is wrong
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Anonymous3w
What’s the safe move since you can’t talk
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Anonymous3w
As long as you both consent it’s fine, but personally if someone wanted to do that to me I would find that very questionable
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Anonymous3w
Not abuse, unless you told him no. Are you happy seeing how it makes him feel?
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Anonymous3w
Sex is all about communication. If something makes you uncomfortable, talk to your partner. If they love and respect you, you’ll be listened to and their actions will shift to your comfort.
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Anonymous#23w
Yeah!
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Anonymous#53w
It's mostly to make him happy, but I also love the way he simultaneously looses control mentally and takes control physically
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Anonymous#23w
Sometimes the abused does not say no, and that can still be abuse. It’s not the absence of a verbal no, it’s the presence of a clear yes