Ask Women on Yik Yak | My boyfriend has expressed to me many times that he likes putting it all down my throat and holding my head/taking control etc. I like it too, but a close friend of mine told me that was abuse?? Because he initiates? I love making him happy, but thoughts?

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My boyfriend has expressed to me many times that he likes putting it all down my throat and holding my head/taking control etc. I like it too, but a close friend of mine told me that was abuse?? Because he initiates? I love making him happy, but thoughts?

Anonymous 4w

If you’re consenting with it, it’s all good. If you don’t want that to happen and he still does it, that’s abuse

Anonymous 4w

If it’s consent and you guys got safe words/things to use when it becomes too much then no, not abuse. If you’re doing it just to please him, that’s a little iffy but still not abuse

Anonymous 4w

The only way for it to be abuse is if he actually hurting you and didn’t say sorry after the fact. However what you are describing is just normal rough s*x, so in that case your friend is wrong

Anonymous 4w

What’s the safe move since you can’t talk

Anonymous 4w

As long as you both consent it’s fine, but personally if someone wanted to do that to me I would find that very questionable

Anonymous 4w

Not abuse, unless you told him no. Are you happy seeing how it makes him feel?

Anonymous 3w

Sex is all about communication. If something makes you uncomfortable, talk to your partner. If they love and respect you, you’ll be listened to and their actions will shift to your comfort.

Anonymous

#2 4w

Yeah!

Anonymous

#5 4w

It's mostly to make him happy, but I also love the way he simultaneously looses control mentally and takes control physically

Anonymous

#2 3w

Sometimes the abused does not say no, and that can still be abuse. It’s not the absence of a verbal no, it’s the presence of a clear yes