Anonymous #1 3w

Almost 5 month. We both have feelings for eachother but haven’t done much more than casually hangout

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Anonymous hellraiser 3w

You are in a relationship that started as a hookup right? Did you guys talk at all about having feelings for eachother? Or was it straight to I love you after a normal hookup

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Anonymous OP 3w

we had been hooking up and going on dates for a few months before he told me kinda out of the blue one time when we’d been drinking that he was kinda crazy about me, and never expected to feel this way. then we became official and it wasn’t until a couple months into the relationship that we said i love you

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Anonymous hellraiser 3w

See my problem is he said I love you completely out of the blue and like I wasn’t even sure if he had feelings for me or not. Idk it’s just so shocking to have that dropped on you after a hookup

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Anonymous hellraiser 3w

I just feel kinda blindsided and pressured to love him back when I don’t feel that way about him yet

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Anonymous OP 3w

he probably does genuinely feel like he loves you if he said it, from what you’ve given us i don’t see any reason to believe he’s acting with any malice or intent to manipulate you. if i were you id have a very honest raw conversation about where you’re at. you both need to talk about what it is that you want and where your current emotions are

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Anonymous hellraiser 3w

Yeah I really do need to have a conversation with him I’m just awful at talking about my feelings

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Anonymous hellraiser 3w

Thank you

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Anonymous OP 3w

i used to be the same way. you just gotta go for it and do the best you can. sometimes it helps to write down some stuff you’re feeling just putting it on paper to figure out how you truly feel. better to organize your thoughts before you try to talk about them. it gets easier with practice too

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