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How do I know when to leave? Like when do I know he isn’t gonna change? How many chances do I give him? He was my first for a lot of things…I just don’t know if he’s meant to be the one. Does that make me an awful person?
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Anonymous 12h

You’re not an awful person for wanting to leave a relationship you’re not happy in. You should never stick around just to please the other person or just because they were your first

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Anonymous 10h

If you aren’t happy then leave, it really is that simple girl. If you dont feel the same as you used to then its just not going to improve miraculously. The person you needed then doesnt mean thats the person you need now

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Anonymous 12h

HOLD ON I HAVE A POST FOR THIS I SAVED A WHILE BACK LET ME GO GET IT

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Anonymous 10h

Depends what these things even are

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Anonymous 8h

I’m biased, but it doesn sound to me like you might be happier single

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 12h

https://www.instagram.com/p/DSmMj0MDzFM/ 1. Give him as many chances as you want - ON THE CONDITION that he is actually changing to stop doing the things that make you feel small/hurt ^6months of continuous work, not a little here a little there, small but noticeable continuous work 2. It doesn’t makes you an awful person to walk away from ANY relationship. Even if he were a 10/10 guy, if you didn’t feel like your best self more than 50% of the time with him you’re not in the wrong to walk

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 12h

I feel like an awful person though. He found me in a point of my life where I needed him. He was what I needed then and helped me heal. The more I know him now though the less I feel for him. We are moved in together which was definitely fast looking back it after being together for a year and few months when we decided to do that. We have a dog together and things are simple. He’s mean though sometimes. His whole mood is based off sex. He doesn’t want me ever going out or doing anything.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 12h

He’s still kind though when things are good. I just feel like there’s no in between though. It’s either really good or really bad. I feel so stuck trying to decide what I want. I can’t tell if I’m just over reacting or what.

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 12h

Thanks diva

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 12h

Needed this fr

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 12h

It’s up to you but you need to be asking yourself if this is the kind of lifestyle you want to be living until you die. I do believe that toxic people can change if they want to, but it’s up to him to want to try doing that. I don’t know all the details of your situation obv but historically, men who have an obsession like that and want to control their partner’s habits commonly end up physically abusive. It’s definitely something that should be addressed at the very least

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 12h

Obsession with sex** forgot to specify mb. I completely understand why you feel bad for feeling this way, but please don’t stay in a relationship just because “he was really nice before” or “I needed him at a different point in my life”, neither of these things make another person entitled to your romantic or sexual company.

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