Anonymous #1 9w

R u sure? Speaking from personal experience, if a man rlly likes u (not just fir superficial reasons) he is chalant

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Anonymous OP 9w

*for

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Anonymous #3 9w

Cuz we hear abt women getting the “ick” when men open up

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Anonymous OP 9w

Well, men just don’t like me ig cause it’s not been my experience 💀

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Anonymous #2 9w

Ofc ur not seeking out men for emotional unavailability—some might, but it’s not as many as men think. The fact men even think that abt women as a whole is ridiculous, I’m just saying the men u go for happen to be like that, and that’s probably bc they have options (they’re highly attractive and/or charismatic).

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Anonymous #1 9w

It’s not u, it’s the men ur going for. Ur going for guys who are players

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Anonymous OP 9w

Uh no? I seek to date. And that’s what they portray as well until I get to know them more and more and realize they lied about intentions. I didn’t say I’m seeking men for emotional unavailability I said the men that are emotionally unavailable are using ppl for sex and lying about intentions. To make it seem like it’s our fault is the ridiculous part

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Anonymous OP 9w

Why would I purposefully care for those things in a guy and why would you act like men who are emotionally available can’t be attractive and charismatic

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Anonymous #2 9w

Bc ppl like individuals who are attractive and charismatic, which means the desired after guys feel like they can sleep around.

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Anonymous OP 9w

I mean that doesn’t mean they should lie about intentions but that also doesn’t mean we purposefully pick men that are using us bc we don’t know if we’ll get used. Ppl in general don’t usually know that until they get to know someone enough to see signs

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Anonymous #2 9w

I’m not saying ur seeking then out. I’m saying the more attractive/charismatic the guy is, the more likely he is to be like that. Whether u know it or not, ur likely going for guys like this.

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Anonymous #1 9w

And I don’t mean ur actively seeking out players. These guys tend to just be the ones who get girls tho, whether due to attractiveness, charisma, etc.

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Anonymous OP 9w

I’m not though? Why do you think bc women want attractive men they get players? It’s like saying “maybe if you didn’t go after such attractive men men would treat you better. Give the less attractive guys a chance”. Which isn’t true either. I mean I want a charming and charismatic guy, why shouldn’t I want that

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Anonymous OP 9w

I’m not seeking out anybody cause the men around me just suck lmao. There’s seriously no good ones 🥴

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Anonymous #1 9w

So ur going to not seek out men, missing the good ones who don’t put themselves out there as much, bc you’ve ended w/ guys who are players

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Anonymous OP 9w

I’m open if I come across a good one but I haven’t seen one ,so I’m not gonna be putting myself out there. Men in general have given me nothing but grief and pain so I’m not really sorry about it.

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Anonymous #2 9w

Why isn’t that true? Players are attractive, and attractive men often are players. If u want a different type of guy, u may want to give guys who are less charismatic a and attractive (within reason) a chance.

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Anonymous #1 9w

Well, I’m sorry that you’ve had such bad experiences. How would a good guy find u tho?

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Anonymous OP 9w

Well, I’m not a complete hermit, so organically , just like you’d meet anyone else. Just cause I’m not “putting myself out there”, doesn’t mean I’m not down to have conversations with strangers.

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Anonymous OP 9w

Um no? I want a man I’m at least attracted to

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Anonymous #2 9w

Um, ur just going to end up w/ more “emotionally unavailable” guys. I didn’t say date someone who’s ugly and socially inept 😭. Just someone who’s not a guy that girls are all over.

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Anonymous OP 9w

No? Women are allowed to seek men that are attracted to. Stop pushing stereotypes to force women to settle for men that aren’t attractive bc they think they’re “better”. They aren’t always better they can be very cocky

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Anonymous OP 9w

And I don’t go for those guys I go for men I’m attracted to. I’m not going to just date anyone to escape what you think players are

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Anonymous OP 9w

You sound like a “nice guy” incel dude 😂

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Anonymous OP 9w

Or is it because you’ve been brought up to believe your feelings don’t matter? And then when someone has a genuine conversation with you and doesn’t share the same beliefs, which is what dating is for, you view it is rejection and impudence, instead of disagreement and difference of opinion?

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Anonymous #7 9w

What? 😐

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Anonymous #7 9w

I’m genuinely confused. What r u saying? Wdym that’s what dating is for?

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Anonymous forget_me_not 9w

Yeah. Ur right. It’s both. I was maybe generalizing a little too much. But some of it does just come down to the guys ur dating.

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Anonymous #2 9w

Sounds like ur using a stereotype. The cocky short guy w/ a Napoleon complex who sleeps around even tho he’s short and lucky that ur dating him 😭💀

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Anonymous OP 9w

What stereotype? I never mentioned height. I just prefer a man I’d at least be attracted to that isn’t a player😭

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Anonymous #2 9w

Lol. I was assuming they’re an example of who ur talking abt. I never said go for guys ur not attracted to. That’s silly. Just guys that are potentially attractive in different ways

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Anonymous #6 9w

Ik I’m not perfect. I won’t use u for sex tho

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Anonymous OP 9w

Has it ever occurred to you that maybe girls don’t give you a chance because you make sweeping assumptions about people based on looks?

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Anonymous #6 9w

What? 😭💀

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Anonymous OP 9w

That’s what you’ve been doing in this entire thread don’t act confused 😂

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Anonymous #6 9w

How would girl know that irl tho? I don’t go around talking like I do on here 😭

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Anonymous OP 9w

Why would you think I use these kinds of examples to make you feel better about yourself? I’d never use incel examples bc that’s not what I’m attracted to

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Anonymous #2 9w

Idk what ur attracted to. I’m making educated guesses

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Anonymous #1 9w

So if a guy approached u respectfully, u wouldn’t react negatively?

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Anonymous OP 9w

I don’t know how that’s an educated guess to be a man with a Napoleon complex

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Anonymous #2 9w

😭💀. I’ll admit, that one was a little bit of a shot in the dark lol

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Anonymous OP 9w

That’s a bit of a reach

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Anonymous #2 9w

Ik 💀. I thought it was funny. Not that important tho

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Anonymous OP 9w

To be really honest, it depends on the day. I have ptsd and some days I’m hyper vigilant , other days though I’m fine and would be open to it.

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