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How do I make women friends without them thinking I like them?
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Anonymous 2w

It would be such a relief to me if a guy was just totally upfront and honest ab it. Like even if i know a guy to be just a friend theres been so many times where i eventually got the dreaded "can i ask you a question"

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Anonymous 2w

Just be clear with your intentions

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Anonymous 2w

Specifically if I ask a girl to hang out, how do I make it obvious it’s not a date without making it awkward 😭

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Anonymous 2w

Talk about your ex. Like all the time

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Anonymous 2w

Hi OP, I am a guy and virgin by choice. Over time I lost all my guy friends and just have women as friends. I formed strong bonds with them that is deeper than their boyfriends. So it’s the vibe I give out but few know I am a virgin. Quite the paradox.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 2w

You could just say that

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 2w

So if I’m asking them to hang out, how exactly would I word it?

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 2w

Make it more of a group thing at first so you can build a platonic relationship before you hang out one on one

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 2w

Hey do you wanna go to __?

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Anonymous replying to -> #5 2w

You could even add "we can invite some other friends too"

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Anonymous replying to -> #6 2w

Hiii! How did you initially meet them?

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 2w

Places like the gym, churches, and other activities where you see them often. Even grocery stores. For me they sense a vibe and basically be friends. It’s the vibe in the end. I met actresses too. Also every job I got was a manager as a woman. My virginity is the basis I believe.

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Anonymous replying to -> #6 2w

Why would virginity be the basis of being able to be friends with women?

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 2w

It’s the vibe. It happens on its own. They notice I do not seek them but rather want them happy and listen. A guy wanting them means he’s charging them for his attention and the payment is a relationship. I guess the vibe is that there are not conditions and it’s on virtue and virtue alone. The actresses were the coolest because they have a lot of social energy and how they enjoy their day in colorful ways.

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Anonymous replying to -> #6 2w

Just because a guy has had sex doesn’t mean that they are trying to have sex with every woman they meet?????

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 2w

Yes a non virgin can do this too but the motivation needs to be there without expectations. Without that desire to be with them gives off that vibe. It’s funny how it works because I asked some of them out before and it didn’t affect the friendship. Also at first they don’t think I’m real then overtime they see I am. That is the vibe I am saying.

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 2w

Stop villainizing the “can I ask you a question”. People cannot control who they catch feelings. It’s good they’re talking about it and communicating

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Anonymous replying to -> #8 2w

Well im a lesbian and the guys who say that should respect me enough to not pull that bullshit

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 2w

Like if i think a guy is my friend but then they confess their love and ask me out thats straight up offensive and disgusting. It is just betrayal

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 2w

If they know you’re a lesbian then yeah I can understand but otherwise saying it’s a betrayal is extremely messed up. You’re acting like people can control who they catch feelings for. I caught feelings for my girl best friend and I knew she didn’t feel the same but we talked it through and boom literally ZERO problems

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