I get not wanting to be taken advantage of. That’s why checking for reciprocity, setting timelines, and seeing if he’s acting like a husband is important. Cause if a dude was intentionally neglecting parts of our relationship because he’s not my husband why would I think he’d magically do it when we marry? I’d need to see he’s able and interested in doing those things beforehand to even decide if I wanna marry him. I’m assuming the reverse is true too.