Yes i fled dv in april and it took me fucking 6 months of hell with her to even start believing all my friends and my therapist in telling me it wasnt all my fault. That shit is crazy and that realization that i was being abused fucking crushed me for months, im rlly just recovering now. If you want to talk my dms are open, ive learned a lot ab how to process the feelings and forgive myself

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Idk what’s real and I just want someone to relate to. Like I for real thought everything was my fault and that I was horrible

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That’s so very normal. You were being manipulated.

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To some people, being selfish isn’t irrational. There is a lack of perception of future consequences; and control in the present moment is something like a lifeline that they cling onto through any means necessary. Those people don’t deserve your love or attention, you’ve got this.

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I’m was in love with a friend in undergrad and I kept it mostly under wraps but we still flirted and she kept me around, despite keeping me at a distance (I think she was flattered despite not wanting to date me). After undergrad we drifted and she just said some of the most heinous shit to me. Now I just look back and realize how awful she was as a person, incredibly intelligent, but fuck, she once said to my face, “I’m gonna get married before [me], and I’m never getting married”

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Yes! Ok so this technically wasn’t a relationship it was a friendship back in elementary school but they’re similar elements. There was this one guy who kept putting me off and saying mean things then next say he didn’t mean it. It eventually when to where he said he’ll stop being my friend unless I apologize to him. So the nice trusting guy that I was apologized even when he did it and blamed me for it to the teacher. It went like that for a year till he moved and I never heard from him again.

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