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Where is the fine line between liking someone and just being there type? I don’t want to be fetishized but I also hate whenever a woman thinks less of me or does not give me the time of day because I’m “not her type” I want a slow burn but it feels imposs
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Anonymous 3w

To me liking someone is also a personality thing

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Anonymous 3w

In my opinion, I could be attracted to someone and just like how they look. I’d rather vibe with someone even if they aren’t my type.

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Anonymous 3w

You can liek someone who isn’t your type

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Anonymous 3w

As someone who is a less common type, i’ve come to terms with the fact that my dating pool may be smaller. And I actually wouldn’t want to date someone who wasn’t really into me. I would rather keep waiting and date someone who is really fine with who I am, as opposed to getting strung along by someone who is on the fence and trying to like me.

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 3w

But how these days I feel like the second something isn’t perfect people toss out the idea of anything serious

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 3w

But they will never get a chance to learn your personality if they never speak to you because they don’t find you attractive immediately

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 3w

Yeah no I don’t think so- maybe you need to work on your confidence? Or you’re going for girls who will never like you for another reason

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 3w

I think it’s just confidence combined with a unfortunate slew of bad talking stages

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 3w

Hey I get that! I have felt the same because of men before- you’ll find someone who wants you for you honey!

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 3w

I’m just so worried because I feel like I am the epitome of everything people hate right now because I am such a perfect middle ground I’m the polar opposite of hate and divide

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 3w

I really think you should talk to someone about your confidence issues and work through them before trying to find someone

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 3w

Who? Therapy is to expensive to go back

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 3w

If you’re in college most schools have counseling centers

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 3w

I think that people who never give you a chance aren’t worth your time anyways

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 3w

That’s what I’ve been trying to figure but that seems like so many people these days… I think it is just the political climate and my location more than anything but still it sucks feeling so left out from the dating scene

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 3w

I forgot about that your right I’ll look into it

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 3w

My problem is I’m either fetishized or like you said but since my dating pool is so chaotic there’s never anyone there who sees me it’s always either wants me but just for existing or despises me and could never see me as anything but a friend

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 3w

You will find someone, you just have to go do the things you like and find like people! You got this!

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 3w

That is rough. That kind of thing definitely makes it harder. This may not help in your situation, but I generally suggest expanding your social circle, particularly in things that you like to do, or in groups of like-minded people. That at least will have more people enter your orbit than otherwise.

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 3w

That’s what I’m attempting to do even now by being here I read a lot of self help books after this last person I talked to particularly stung and a big thing is doing your own thing and letting others do theirs. I really wish I started earlier because I will graduate soon and miss out on lots of situations I could’ve made more friends in clubs and what not

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 3w

The self-help book seems like a good approach. And you’re not the only one feeling like you missed the boat on making friends and meeting people in college. It’s a bit harder afterwards because there’s not one central club hub or something, but it’s not over. after I graduated, I made a lot of friends in town.

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 3w

I just hate that I will never be this close to even a classroom ish sized amount of people my age again.

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