Anonymous #3 4w

Willing to commit and I like a short king 🫣😂

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I’m in a relationship

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Anonymous #3 4w

I’m dating someone under 6 ft. Skill issue?

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Anonymous #2 4w

“Someone under 6ft”. Proceeds to say he’s 5’9 😒😒

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Anonymous #3 4w

5’9 is under 6 foot what?

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Anonymous #3 4w

Actually I’m just short and like people to be near my eye level. I am not sharing my partner’s exact height because that’s his personal info, but I really wouldn’t care if he was shorter. Would care if he was ridiculously tall though. If I can’t reach the top of his head, he’s too tall 😂 My bf actually grew from under six ft to still under six ft during our relationship and at this point, I would not end the relationship over height even if he grew to 8 ft.

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Anonymous #3 4w

But if you want to blame nonexistent standards for your lack of a partner despite everything that real people tell you about their actual relationships and preferences… maybe that attitude is the reason you’re single.

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Anonymous #2 4w

same i’m waiting for marriage and it instantly eliminates so many would-be problem men from my life 💖

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Anonymous twirling_tornado 4w

Or you’re gonna end up with the most problematic type of man

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Because I have standards?

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Anonymous #8 4w

my bf is the most amazing, intelligent, hot, and sweet man i have ever met and spoils me to no end so nah

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Anonymous #8 4w

I mean it’s POSSIBLE, but if you have standards and a plan to leave when certain lines are crossed, he’d have to be a very patient psychopath to get you and those are rare.

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Anonymous #10 4w

I gave a presentation on the double slit experiment, but if you think quantum mechanics is boring, then you’re the boring one buddy

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Anonymous #5 4w

Reasonable thing to say

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Anonymous #2 4w

Performative female. I know the games you play

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Anonymous #11 4w

Yea that’s a no. I got requirements for time spent dating before engagement too, for that reason.

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Anonymous #2 4w

In practice it would go more like: love island, my friend …, or let’s go for a walk because I don’t have a single hobby except talking on the phone

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Anonymous #2 4w

After two years that’s the best time to get married

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Anonymous #11 4w

I’m f22, never had a bf, and a virgin. It raised a red flag but it also let it pass as a sign of commitment? We’re not together anymore. And now dating just seems that much more scary. Can men truly value and love me for me without sex on the table? Do I have to withhold that from them just to see that?

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Anonymous #11 4w

I think the answer is no but I also need to listen to my instinct and walk away sooner rather than later

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Anonymous #10 4w

Ooooo you DID NOT say quantum mechanics is boring! Even misogynists can’t deny the awesomeness of science. Anyway, you’re probably a total waste of my time so bye. Unless you have one interesting thing to tell me that I didn’t already know, I don’t need to bother with you.

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Anonymous #10 4w

Note to any readers who are confused as to why some women prefer the term “woman” to “female”. It’s because of guys like this, who use “female” in this context. Personally idc and use them interchangeably, but this is a perfect example for any of you who are confused about it.

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Anonymous #2 4w

Performative male - performative female. It’s pretty simple. Not even sure what the hell your writing about it’s giving me crazy vibes already

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Anonymous #11 4w

Rushing you is definitely a potential red flag. Sometimes it’s just an expression of relief/excitement when people who value abstinence meet someone with their same values, or insecurity if they feel like they have to, sort of, marry you before you leave for something better. If he’s also abstinent by choice, that is the ONLY case where that statement is not a red flag. If he’a not abstinent by choice but is happy that you are, that means he has double standards.

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Anonymous #10 4w

among many other things ive been asked to be a keynote speaker at an international tech conference but ok

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Anonymous #11 4w

My bf had sexual double standards when I first met him. Only stayed with him after learning that because the whole concept was new to me. Through experience, I learned that dating men with sexual double standards is literally impossible. He liked my values but didn’t want to live by them. He was otherwise kind and respectful, just a bit… brainwashed by society. Either way, it created a lot of problems.

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Anonymous #2 4w

I've always been curious why women lie like this even when there are no consequences? Why not be honest about general trends of sexual preferences?

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Anonymous #11 4w

Eventually I had to say, pick between the two. Double standards, or me. Had to explain why he would probably never find a happy relationship if he kept those double standards. Told him straight up that women don’t “change their minds when they meet the right guy” or any of the other bull crap he got from the internet, and that I was never going to change my mind about my values and standards. I think we’re one of the VERY FEW CASES where guys with these beliefs can actually change their minds.

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Anonymous #11 4w

If we don’t work out and I somehow end up with another guy who has these double standards, I’m not doing all this again. I mean I’m glad he learned not to trust podcast bros, but seriously that was TIME CONSUMING. Just don’t date dudes with double standards like that.

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Anonymous #2 4w

As someone who has taken quantum mechanics, fuck quantum mechanics. But yeah… it’s decidedly not boring, just painful

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Anonymous #11 4w

Other variety of sexually active guys who hear “no sex before marriage” and rush for marriage are just fuckboys who don’t respect you. Obviously, don’t marry someone without taking time to get to know them and doing plenty of due diligence checking them out. And don’t let anyone change your mind about your standards.

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Anonymous #10 4w

Oh wow, this is turning into a great learning experience! How to recognize toxic behaviors. Exhibit 10. Part A. Confused as to why their behavior is put on display as an explanation to others. To understand why, they would have to self-reflect. Hence, they do not understand. Part B. Referring to the person calling them out as “crazy”. In interpersonal relationships, this id called gaslighting. Very toxic. Gas mask recommended.

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Anonymous #12 4w

Have you… taken a statistics class?

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Anonymous #2 4w

Two in order to finish my degree. Why?

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Anonymous #12 4w

Classes were just university stats 1 & 2. Both calc based but second included more linear and proofs and stuff

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Anonymous #12 4w

Those of us who have taken statistics understand that trends based on averages do not contain the whole picture. When you have a data set, such as a list of height preferences, the highest and lowest preferences will obviously be different. People whose height preferences are below average are not lying, they are simply not average.

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Anonymous #12 4w

Oh good, then you do know how statistics work. Can you, maybe, apply them?

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Anonymous #14 4w

Ooooo I’m taking it now. I heard it’s hard, but… I just can’t go my whole life without ever taking it. I’ve been wanting to know what we’re made of since like 8th grade, and now I finally can! And make study groups about it, and ask the professor all sorts of questions.

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Anonymous twirling_tornado 4w

Yooooooo that’s sick! Good for you!

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Anonymous #4 4w

One time i was flyering for a club and someone came over and shook my hand, then flirtatiously pulled me in his direction. I was in a relationship and not interested, but I approve of this idea. Hope he found someone

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Anonymous #18 4w

Thats not true smh

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Anonymous #3 4w

Im 5’9 and some women truly dont care. I think they just like to say that to be problematic idk

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Anonymous #20 4w

Pfffffss ok buddy

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Anonymous #20 4w

Or, you know, different ones have different preferences

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Anonymous #2 4w

The lie was the statement "blame nonexistent standards" There are general trends and standards.

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Anonymous #3 4w

Right here bro

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Anonymous #15 4w

#1. Honesty, consistency, respect, mutual sexual attraction, shared values, shared and compatible definitions of fun #2. Security emotionally and practically through height, strength, confidence, money, and social status #3 unnamable extra personal factors unique to each woman

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Anonymous #12 4w

The more you have the better, the less you have the more they often perceive you have to "make up" for a lack

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Anonymous #12 4w

Oh, maybe I wasn’t clear enough what I meant. I was referring to the assumption he made about my personal standards (he assumed that I was dating close to 6 feet after I told him I was dating under 6 feet), not the general preference that many women have.

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Anonymous #11 4w

If you have any value beyond sex, it'll be seen

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Anonymous #12 3w

Security through height and strength… just say you set dating apps to 6ft+ 🙄🙄🙄🙄

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Anonymous #4 3w

I promise you man, just ask us. Some ladies are mean but us wifeys are out there

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Anonymous #4 3w

They say that dating for straight men is like a desert and dating for straight women is like a swamp, different situations but similarly difficult to find a good relationship

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Anonymous #12 3w

All humans have value. Don’t pretend for a second that some are mere sex toys. Doing so could be dangerous for you, if I catch you at it. Idc if it’s the most boring, basic person in the universe. You violate her, you lose parts. I mean business.

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Anonymous #3 3w

These are the things that most women want including ones who don’t have an arbitrary 6ft limit, it’s a big part of why a lot of women tend to be more attracted to taller guys. Different ones of these are more or less important to different women, so for example some women who prefer guys less tall might value more the security of feeling easier to connect when there’s less of that physical separation

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Anonymous #16 3w

Part of it is that the people who are more picky or obnoxious or whatever are going to have a harder time getting a relationship and thus will stay on the app longer

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Anonymous #12 3w

There are existing standards that many women have, there are not existing universal standards of what women want Also for a lot of women, particularly shorter women, who prefer a tall guy 5’9 and 5’10 would still be considered tall, that’s not a shorter guy, the 6’ thing is mostly on dating apps where they’re seeing the number and not the person

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Anonymous #10 3w

Going on walks and watching shows are hobbies…

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Anonymous #15 3w

For me? Commitment, mutual respect, consistency, sexual attraction, humor, emotional stability, maturity, confidence and honestly the #1 most IMPORTANT factor to me is communication!!!!!! Can’t communicate with me? None of the rest will make up for that. And I’m 5’7” and have dated my height, taller AND slightly shorter.

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Anonymous #3 3w

Yep. I like tall strong men. Lots of men like shorter more delicate women. Plenty of women like short delicate men, and plenty of men like tall strong women. I was just trying to help answer #15: "What do women want in a man"

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