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Is it wrong that I am bothered by how my boyfriend treats his hobbies and friends differently than me? Like he won’t stay up late for me but for them it’s no problem.. he doesn’t want to go out after work for me but friends or hobbies is fine..🤨
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It’s not a big deal.
It’s weird he does that…
That’s not ok, seems unfair.
Other.
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Anonymous 20h

Is it consistent or is it only once in a while he’s making extra time for these other things?

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Anonymous 13h

Get your own hobbies and friends, so you won’t care or break up with after communication fails. This seems to be a compatibility issue- he’s not really “selfish.”

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Anonymous 1d

Sometimes I need some downtime and my hobbies help with that. I also have certain friends that are relaxing and help me calm down. I would just talk to him about what you’re looking for so he can know that you are feeling off

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 1d

I just feel selfish even though I honestly don’t get a lot of time with him. Since I’m at college I only see him every two weeks (if that!) for a couple days. So on top of me not even seeing him on the daily, I deal with things like this, and I just don’t know if I’m overthinking or not yk.

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 20h

He always makes time for his friends, we went about a week without even calling bc he goes fishing at night after work with his buddies and said “it’s only been a week”, and when I’m with him he doesn’t want to do anything because he’s “too tired.” Maybe I’m too clingy but when I barely see him I would like to at least call him😭

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