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Ask Women 6d

I asked my girlfriend to stop accepting drinks from other men at bars, is that wrong?

Anonymous 6d

She views it as a way to get free drinks, but I kinda view it as flirting. No man is buying you a drink to be your friend and I feel like accepting that initial gesture is playing into it. She agreed no issue, but I kind of feel like an asshole

Anonymous 6d

Nothing wrong with that. I wouldn’t accept a drink from a random guy at a bar anyway, even if I was single. You never know what they’ll put in it.

Anonymous 6d

No, it’s a boundary you have and that’s fine

Anonymous

#3 6d

It’s not a boundary because he asked her to do something. It is a personal relationship request/rule and a good one to communicate.

Anonymous

#4 6d

I mean a boundary is just defining essentially a line you don’t want crossed, OP’s line is not accepting drinks from other guys. Not detracting from him communicating that

Anonymous

#3 6d

My understanding of boundaries are solely about your own actions, not someone else’s. It’s all in the wording. Every relationship needs rules/guidelines of comfort so that the relationship can succeed

Anonymous

#4 6d

Boundaries don’t have to just be about your own actions though… it’s about what you both find acceptable in the relationship overall. I’m basically making the same point about rules/guidelines as you are here 😭

Anonymous

#3 6d

Thank you for expanding my understanding of boundaries. <god that was the most neurotypical thing I could have said. Perfectly normal 10/10 humanity right there

Anonymous

#4 6d

All good, I do agree with you though perfectly fine for OP to communicate that he’s not comfortable with this