Anonymous #1 2w

And so are all the guys who aren’t some if not all of those things who still have a girlfriend or wife. Props to you for your self awareness!

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Anonymous #2 2w

Then they’ll have to meet my boyfriend and pretty much our guy friends who are still in happy relationships 😌

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Anonymous #3 2w

What does that mean

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Anonymous #3 2w

Ain’t no way you’re three feet tall 😭

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Anonymous #4 2w

i made it up; he has to be able to name 3 platonic female friends, 3 women who inspire him and why, and 3 ways he tends to his mental/emotional health

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Anonymous #5 2w

nooo 😭😂

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Anonymous #3 2w

🤢

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Me too bro I can only cross off two of the three

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To show you can have a healthy relationship with women that aren’t related to you or that you’re sleeping with. Also kinda prepares you for intimate relationships cause some little things you’re already broadly clued in on

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My bf had a decent number of female friends (through his guy friends) that genuinely appreciated him and had nothing but nice things to say and it was an immediate green flag

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To a point I can see that at the same time the way some people treat family may be different than friends. I’ve known people who are saints to relatives and treat everyone else like 🗑️

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Like actual friends you can talk to and know things about or vague acquaintances in the same circles as you tho?

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So y’all aren’t actually friends they’re just women you distantly know of. No shame in that but I wouldn’t call those friends

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Anonymous #6 2w

I'm confused about my down votes…can someone explain? I'm saying they say they need bigger than 6 to get a girl…completely agreeing with this post

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Yeah it feels like cheatish like i wouldnt want her to have guy friends because most if not all guys are after something the same thing can be said and yk treat them like you want to be treated

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To each their own? I’ve never demanded a guy have to have female friends BUT I have taken it as a good bonus when thinking about a long term partner

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Maybe so?? I feel like the type of guy op is referring too would definitely exasurate to 9 but I guess I'm wrong lol

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Anonymous #4 2w

Well based on that you shouldn’t have guy friends either then cause they’d also be thinking about that lol. That’s why trust and self control is important. A guy can think someone is attractive without acting on it.

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Can you read their mind?

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Anonymous #6 2w

Unless you’re saying that sarcastically most women aren’t demanding a guy have 9 inches for her to get in a relationship. The point of the post is that those things AREN’T requirements for most women

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Like I just wouldn’t feel comfortable knowing that they could want to sleep with her

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But they may wanna sleep with your girl if you bring her around them since all guys think the same and want the same thing

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Anonymous OP 2w

Yeah thats fair and I agree that self control is extremely important but i just wouldn’t feel comfortable rather not have to worry about that. I know I am not attracted to men and my girlfriend might not be attracted to girls so I can fully trust her with friends of the same gender even if they are attracted to her or me.

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Anonymous #11 2w

Therapy, self reflection, healthy friendships (including with the opposite sex), focusing on hygiene, having a sense of style, defined hobbies—including some that help with social skills, emotional maturity, and self awareness. It’s subjective but basically being a well rounded person.

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Anonymous OP 2w

I've never known a women to not want at least average in that department…so 6 so pretty fair while the other “requirements” listed are exaggerations. Thank you for clearing up intent though.

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Exactly

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Anonymous #4 2w

Sounds like you may have some things to work through on your end tbh cause expecting your girl to ditch guys she’s legit been friends with since before y’all met because other people may think she’s hot is a dealbreaker for a lot of people

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Anonymous OP 2w

I don’t expect her to break up with people who she was friends with but I do expect her to stop talking to people who have told her that they are attracted to her

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Plus usually dudes who have to talk about how big their cock is don’t actually know how to use it in a satisfying way. Hands and mouths and a bunch of other things are just as important but they make their stick their whole personality 🙄

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Anonymous OP 2w

Agreed!

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Anonymous #4 2w

I think that could be fair but also think trusting her if something prevents that is also important. Depends on how you frame that talk with her tbh

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Anonymous OP 2w

Yeah i trust her but I think its messed up for the other guy too. If she keeps talking to him knowing he likes her and that she doesn’t like him with him still having the intention to get with her. Its like gross to me

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Anonymous #11 2w

off topic but I hope that was a httyd reference because I liked it it was funny

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Anonymous #4 2w

Oof that’s a little different. Someone saying they like you BEFOREHAND and respecting your no isn’t the same as someone saying it while you’re dating and clearly buying their time until y’all break up. If he’s doing that she should definitely cut ties unless the situation makes it harder.

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Anonymous OP 2w

Yeah it was sad he was her guy best friend and there was a lot but thats mainly why I dont trust guy friends and why I dont do girl friends

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Anonymous #4 2w

And I know that its wrong to judge all people by one person but I think its just easier in the relationship to set that line

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Anonymous #4 2w

If the line is someone buying their time to be with your girl I agree! But if it’s guy friends in general that may be something to work through cause that kinda paranoia will eat at you and isn’t fair to her. Think you mean the first one but saying in general for the thread

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Anonymous #12 2w

It was, but also realistically searching for feedback. Idk, I feel like I’m probably more introspective than I should be, frankly I’m just overweight, and that gives me quite a bit of confidence issues (nothing like knowing your appearance is suffering) definitely working to fix the weight issues, and some of the depression that came with it, but otherwise I got cool hobbies 😎.

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Anonymous #11 2w

You should try wrestling 😊its goated and it can help you connect with people

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Anonymous #13 2w

Maybe to get a girl I don’t want. Also people just don’t really want to be with someone unless they can sense the person really likes them or is attracted to them

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Anonymous OP 2w

bros calling her boyfriend chopped crazy

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Anonymous #15 2w

or that he doesn't have a six pack and/or isn't 6ft tall? do you think that's all there is to looking good?

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Anonymous #3 2w

the implication is clearly that the inside of a guy matters more than the outside which is and should be true but that includes looks

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Anonymous #15 2w

Annnnd those aren’t the only things looks can include now are they? 🤔

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Anonymous #4 2w

your comments highlight exactly why i have the 333 rule (specifically the 3 platonic friends part)

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i know FAR more girls who like black guys than white guys 😂 dont make it a race thing

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Anonymous #7 2w

So 6 foot tall, 6 pack abs and 6 inch dick guys who’s only objective is to get into women’s pants do deserve those physical traits??

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Anonymous #15 2w

the post doesn't say that chopped guys pull. it says you don't need the 666 (6 pack, 6 ft, 6 inches) to pull. unless you think not having those = chopped, what you said makes no sense. op never even implied he's chopped, just that he and his friends likely don't have those traits

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Anonymous #3 2w

I can’t even fine my comment but I didn’t say that either I was(or at least though I was) responding to another comment so…okay

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Anonymous #19 2w

you know people who fetishize black guys. white is the default and standard still. it’s implicit and obviously not something people are going to admit to you or even themselves

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