Ask Women on Yik Yak | ‘Jokingly’ told her that I might get clingy with a little “lol”. Thing is, I was not joking. She’s so busy and she doesn’t have time for a clingy bf, genuinely, what do I do?

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Ask Women 10w

‘Jokingly’ told her that I might get clingy with a little “lol”. Thing is, I was not joking. She’s so busy and she doesn’t have time for a clingy bf, genuinely, what do I do?

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Anonymous 10w

can you try not to be clingy ?

Anonymous 10w

i think you need to speak on it, not talking for two days can be normal but i think its easy to take 3 minutes to say how ur day was and go back to work, you guys dont seem like a good fit, especially if she isn’t matching the clingy

Anonymous 10w

find someone else

Anonymous 10w

I’ve kinda been on the other end of this. My bf fell in love way faster than I did. Sometimes it just takes time, and that’s something to communicate. We communicate multiple times a day, but we both have real reasons to worry about each other’s safety. I’m also busy a lot because I sign up for college classes like a kid in a candy shop. I take 1-2 months to grow strong feelings for a romantic partner, if that helps you gauge timing at all.

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hellraiser 10w

I have, I really have. That means going about two days without talking to her though, because of how busy she is. And I don’t think I can do that

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OP 10w

maybe yall aren’t a good match then

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hellraiser 10w

Will it be bad if I tell her we don’t have to date now if she doesn’t have the time and I can wait? I really like this girl, and I feel like I’ll be losing out it if I lose her

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OP 10w

if that aligns with what you feel and what you’re okay with it’s fine to tell her that. but if you think you’re going to be hurt by the arrangement/ want more i think you owe it to yourself to prioritize you’re mental health/ emotional wellbeing

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hellraiser 10w

👏👏👏👏what they said^^^

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hellraiser 10w

I understand what you’re saying and I think I will do this, but it will take me a while. I’m telling you, man, I really like this girl. I don’t think she feels as strongly as I do though. Even if she says she does, it does not look that way.

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#4 10w

With us, there was a period of time where his feelings were way stronger than mine. That was kinda difficult because his feelings would lead him to snuggle smother me when I just wanted to read, and my lack of reciprocation sometimes hurt his feelings. Really, we just talked about it. Communication helped him realize that the difference didn’t mean I didn’t like him, and that we had to find a balance between snuggling and other activities.

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#4 10w

I think I need to talk to her about it