Anonymous OP 4w

Generally from talking to people it’s just a mix of not understanding and their only experience with polyamorous people before I meet them being problematic internet polycules

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Anonymous #3 4w

I mean so can monogamy in different ways, people just dont see those problems in the same way because its normative

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Anonymous twirling_tornado 4w

You are also MAGA so I don’t care for your comments lol

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Anonymous twirling_tornado 4w

This is my main confusion because they all look different why is there this conception of poly people being like the same dynamic looking the same and acting the same

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Anonymous #7 4w

I think this is the main situation. People react with disgust because it isnt normative and they dont care to investigate why thats their first reaction

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Anonymous #1 4w

i am not maga 🤣 u cant just call everyone u dont like maga lmfaoo

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Anonymous #6 4w

Ive never actually heard of a real life polygamous group tbh, all the ppl in non monogamous relationships are queer and usually anarchist, hence not really believing in monogamy. I think there are def problems when there is an imbalance of power in any relationship but its def more obvious when its a guy with a whole harem. Can i ask what you mean about promoting a lifestyle with no protections? All the poly ppl i know practice some of the safest sex out of anyone i know

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Anonymous #1 4w

bro is like a toddler that knows one (1) insult

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Anonymous twirling_tornado 4w

So what do u mean dawg

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Anonymous twirling_tornado 4w

You said you were MAGA before though lol

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Anonymous #1 4w

i have never ever said i was maga lmfao pathological liar much??

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Anonymous OP 4w

i mean everyone i know of who is poly looks the same way

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Anonymous twirling_tornado 4w

Like what?

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These r some of the best criticisms ive heard of general acceptance of polyamory. Theres def a gentrification/appropriation aspect of monogamy/polygamy being enforced by imperialism while those in the imperial homeland get to practice polyamory as if its some hippie-invented revolutionary way to love. I think smth similar could be said about queerness (im thinking about two spirit ppl and nb ppl) but yikyak does not have the word count for the nuance needed for that convo lol

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huh?? LOL

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Anonymous OP 4w

they look like their entire house stinks of cat pee and BO

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Anonymous twirling_tornado 4w

Oh ur trolling lol

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Anonymous OP 4w

i’m being serious 💀

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Idk dawg like i agree with the sentiment and esp the ways how white queers get a lot of privilege and dont use it to speak on how homophobia in colonized spaces is a product of imperialism. However like it feels like a stretch to imply polyamory or queer identity is stolen from other cultures wholesale. There are aspects tho fs. And like, queer ppl are def oppressed but i see ur point ab white ppl rlly clinging to that oppression like a badge

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Anonymous OP 4w

Ive heard of two poly relationships (explicitly poly btw), one all female/femme-presenting and in both, they introduced a new person into the group and someone got pushed out and left without access to supposedly shared funds. Iirc they all had saved up money to live their dream life and pooled it together, but because it was willingly given (???)/a gift, the person who got pushed out was no longer privy to it? One person was even homeless, I believe this was 2022 but I’ll research it again.

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Respectfully i am educated on safe sex. Im on prep i get tested regularly im on bc my gf tells me if her gf has any new sexual partners etc etc

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YES this is white people shit bro 😭 i also think it’s incredibly weird from a health perspective because encouraging multiple (sexual) partners at once continuously sharing bodily fluids just sounds so gross. That’s why I’m big on monogamy, because I don’t feel comfortable sharing bodies simultaneously with others

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Anonymous #6 4w

Yeah and i know like 10 monogamous dv victims including myself. Just cuz theres shitty people dont mean it was because of the dynamic right? I know hella monogamous relationships that went about as well as youre describing, like my parents are the only parents out of most ppl i know who are still together lmao

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Anonymous twirling_tornado 4w

Seriously silly lol

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Its not cheating if everyone consents.... i also literally did address your criticism and thought it was pretty decent besides the sexually irresponsible bit. Obv its not the same as strict monogamy but id be fucking around if i werent in a relationship anyways lol, thats just like a difference in opinion/lifestyle and thats ok

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Even if ppl get tested after every new partner? Like everybody else does?

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Anonymous OP 4w

This is very true, but I mean we’ve come so far in society that victims of abuse or divorced people have protections. Sometimes people don’t get it or choose not to get it, but it helps a lot of others. As far as I’m aware, poly people don’t have that. This makes me think the dynamic, although probably very similar to monogamous relationships internally, is not externally protected. I think polygamous marriages are only allowed in a few states; what happens if you get pushed out like above?

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