i don’t consider it cheating but i think that it’s bad for you and unethical so i wouldn’t really want a partner to watch it

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i'm with you, op. i completely get why people wouldn't want their partner watching porn or w/e but i don't see any possible way that it fits the generally agreed upon definition of cheating (setting aside like OF where they're talking to the model)

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i’m an autistic woman, sorry in advance if i come across as rude or condescending

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It depends on the relationship and the type. It could be emotional cheating. Especially if it’s something where you give the performer money like OF or those live cam things

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for me its the idea of wanting to watch other people, if you find me attractive and enjoy having sex with me, why am i not enough? maybe its not flat out cheating but for me its a relationship ender

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Personally I’d say it isn’t cheating. That just feel like something dramatic someone came up with to justify their feelings about it. However, I can see why someone might way to stop/limit their partners porn consumption. Personally I generally don’t care as long as they’re not obsessed and understand that porn isn’t reality

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in my opinion, it can feel like an insult to me. if he’s watching/looking at someone else to get off, how is that any different than physically being with them? i see it as a conscious decision to seek out pleasure from someone other than your partner (unless there’s an addiction to it prior to the relationship that has been addressed)

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