Anonymous #1 2d

I feel like I’ve been around multiple guys where I know them for years and then all of a sudden it just slips out into conversation one day and throws me off

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Anonymous #1 2d

seriously that’s such a good litmus test

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Anonymous #4 2d

I do agree to some extent that there is a difference based on context and tone but it is important for guys to remember that even though we have come a long way towards reclaiming it, it is still heavily shadowed by its use to minimize and repress women.

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Anonymous #6 2d

EXACTLY. like ew gross go away

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Anonymous #4 2d

Tbh I don’t think a straight man at the very least should ever be saying bitch even casually, like some straight dude even saying “bitch come here” vs if I’m dating a woman saying that.. maybe I’m in the wrong but idk I don’t like that

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Anonymous #4 2d

I think a lot of the difference is if it’s referring to. Woman. I don’t mind guys saying bitch but it should NEVER be used to refer to a woman imo, even non meanly, no matter the sexuality. But I’m a bit puritan about it bc I’ve simply never had to put up with any men who do that so my standards can be high

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Anonymous #4 2d

Idk im also gay and theres a fine line

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Anonymous #1 2d

I think there’s some honest exceptions. Personally I don’t use the word but there’s like 3 specific people world who have received that title from me and it’s for actual reasons but honestly I feel like any man who goes around using that word on women is definitely a red flag

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Anonymous #10 2d

I respectfully disagree. I never wanna hear the word “bitch” come out of a man’s mouth to refer to a woman ever. No matter how much I like a guy I’m not giving him the pass. There’s just no need to use it

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Anonymous #2 2d

I was looking at my school page and here’s an example of how I usually see it used so casually and still hate it, it doesn’t have be either angry or 💅🏼

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Anonymous #2 2d

Like just say women

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Anonymous #2 2d

they clearly didn’t only mean women? get over it

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Anonymous #2 2d

I mean I dont rly have a problem with it when it doesn’t refer to women specifically but that’s just me. Like do me that just reads as a general term for a group, not singling out women

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Anonymous #1 2d

Esp the wattpad one very much reads off as referring to women

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Anonymous #2 2d

it doesn’t though? it very much reads off as “people”

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Anonymous #2 2d

especially as someone who literally uses “bitches” as a broad term

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Anonymous #13 2d

why would any woman want that?

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Anonymous jasdabratxo 2d

some ppl are into that 🤷🏻‍♀️ kinks are kinks

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Anonymous #8 2d

that's a weird thing to want imo. men rarely get degraded during sex. that’s the patriarchy i guess 🫩

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Anonymous jasdabratxo 2d

I totally get that. I personally don’t prefer it but i’m not going to diss on someone else for what they like when they’re being intimate w their partner. There are some men who like to be degraded as well. It happens more often than you think, though their degradation is a bit different than women’s. It’s usually less popular, so yeah, the patriarchy is a factor here.

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Anonymous jasdabratxo 2d

holy crap that’s a lot i’m so sorry

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Anonymous #8 2d

i’m familiar with femdom and it does not happen often, trust. the male doms/alpha males shame sub men for being into that because they think submission and degradation is a woman’s role. i thought we’d be past patriarchal sex by now but it is internalized and indoctrinated, unfortunately.

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Anonymous jasdabratxo 2d

It happens 🤷🏻‍♀️ people are going to be into what they’re going to be into.

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Anonymous #8 2d

if it wasn’t for patriarchy, most women wouldn’t be into degredation and blowjobs. that’s just a fact. the bdsm community exists because of the patriarchy and the porn industry.

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Anonymous jasdabratxo 2d

again. i fully get that. but people are going to be into things. Not much to do about it.

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Anonymous #8 2d

it could easily be abolished if standards were higher, but i digress.

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Anonymous jasdabratxo 2d

Sure, i guess. but there are definitely still going to be people who are into that bc a persons sex life and what they’re into is their own personal choices.

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Anonymous #8 2d

i get there will be some women that’s into that, but i feel as if most women are into it because of indoctrinate and strictly because of the man’s pleasure.

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Anonymous jasdabratxo 2d

Once again, I agree with you.

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Anonymous #1 2d

clock it

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Anonymous #20 1d

read it one more time

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Anonymous #22 1d

actually, im 12

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Anonymous #19 1d

take ur own advice

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Anonymous #21 1d

well…no. it’s just a derogatory term

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Anonymous OP 1d

What if I am lesbian, and we like to call each other bitches and other derogatory terms because of our kinks? Is that bad for us to do?

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Anonymous #18 1d

Of course not its a kink setting thats so different

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Anonymous #18 1d

Kinks are kinks, girl. You’re totally good

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Anonymous #18 1d

no that’s different

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Anonymous OP 1d

so a slur is defined as a derogatory term targeted towards a specific group of people AKA women in this sense. When a man calls a woman a bitch it is incredibly more offensive then women using it as a friendly term.

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Anonymous OP 1d

also the term bitch has historically been used to degrade women and still is today

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Anonymous jasdabratxo 1d

oh my god me being into one kinky thing in bed does not automatically mean i’m somehow upholding patriarchal values. it may be a weird thing to YOU and that’s fine but you feeling the need to comment on this and imply that my sexual preferences are somehow societally manufactured and something women wouldn’t authentically want - THAT is weird.

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Anonymous jasdabratxo 1d

yes, culture/patriarchy absolutely influences sexual preferences to SOME extent. that doesnt mean that every woman who likes rough & degrading sex secretly hates herself & that her sexual preferences stems from being oppressed by men. sub men also exist and it’s j less openly discussed bc of gender expectations.

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Anonymous jasdabratxo 1d

my og comment said “the ONLY time IM OKAY W IT”- i understand context and consent and this doesn’t mean i actually cater to patriarchal standards IRL. there’s no need to kinkshame me by implying i have “low standards” just bc im not as vanilla in bed as u (which is fine btw). so you don’t need to over-intellectualize some random comment on yikyak.

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Anonymous jasdabratxo 1d

girl you had no problem typing a whole ass dissertation before based off of your own assumptions about me, and the second i come in to actually speak for myself you want to shut up? 🤣🤣

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Anonymous #13 1d

again, you’re playing into patriarchal standards. me not being into sexual patriarchal norms doesn’t make me “vanilla”. i’m a femdom. that is not vanilla. you forget there’s a whole other side of kinks. the indoctrinate is sad.

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Anonymous jasdabratxo 1d

you’re all about “women’s autonomy!!” until a woman actually speaks out about what she wants that YOU dislike and suddenly, it’s “no woman actually wants this, you’re upholding the patriarchy!” THAT is patronizing.

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Anonymous #13 1d

because most of them don’t? if anything it’s patriarchal conditioning. but go off, sis. 🥱

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Anonymous jasdabratxo 1d

just saw all your downvoted posts. “i luv impregnating men with my piss”. this is my sign to stop taking you seriously.

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Anonymous #13 1d

don’t project your inability to reject patriarchal norms onto me 🫩🥀

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Anonymous jasdabratxo 1d

Listening to a man tell women what to feel would be buying into another patriarchal norm tho

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Anonymous #1 1d

i’m a woman tho. you thought you ate. 🫩 women not listening to other women is why men continue to play and disrespect y’all. y’all make it easy for them to embarrass us if anything

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Anonymous jasdabratxo 1d

Oop my bad I thought you were a mans from something I read earlier. I actually completely agree with your take lmao I just don’t want men telling any woman how to feel sexually or

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Anonymous jasdabratxo 1d

But also let’s not blame women for men disrespecting us! That is a choice THEY are making

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Anonymous #1 1d

there’s a nuance. women can hold men accountable all day, but if you’re not doing your part (using discernment and being vigilant), it’s counterproductive. some of the things women go through are easily preventable. women nowadays refuse to listen to their female friends and then want act oblivious when men still continue doing bs.

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Anonymous #1 1d

What if it’s a trasnformer

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Anonymous #1 1d

Can I use it in writing though? Like even though I am CS masters student, I like to write fanfics on the side a s a hobby. Should I be able to use it in a fanfic?

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