
I mean women on Ask Men also sometimes ask for advice privately in DMs because they feel more comfortable in doing so than posting all the details of their situation. I presume it’s the same for some of the men who ask for advice privately in DMs, but I understand your skepticism given how many people there are on here who fetish bait.
The guys with fetishes truly do invade the space though. They push their weird shit onto women here so much that it affects how they react to everything. That means a well meaning guy may get treated poorly because women are shown time and time again that trusting these people goes badly
I already said I condemn the fetish guys, and understand why women wouldn’t want to give advice privately in DMs because of it. I merely said not everyone who asks for advice privately in DMs is a fetish guy or a creep— at least a minority of posters asking for advice in DMs are probably not regularly active in this community and just oblivious to what’s going on with the guys who are fetish baiting here.