Ask Women on Yik Yak | My girlfriend usually cries after sex. She keeps reassuring me that she’s enjoyed it and she’s fine but like that’s a little worrying right? Am I cool?

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Ask Women 9w

My girlfriend usually cries after sex. She keeps reassuring me that she’s enjoyed it and she’s fine but like that’s a little worrying right? Am I cool?

Anonymous 9w

You’re cool, could be a trauma response, could just be her regulating her system again.

Anonymous 9w

You’re good! I do that too even though I love my boyfriend very much and definitely enjoy myself every time. As long as she says she’s okay, you can believe her

Anonymous 9w

You’re good. It’s definitely weird, however.

Anonymous 9w

Dude you really need to talk to her. Nonverbal queues usually tell more truth than verbal ones. She needs to be able to communicate why she’s crying. I’d hold off on sex until you can get to the bottom of it together. Trauma responses after sex are an indicator that something is seriously wrong. Make her feel safe about communicating. Please. If that doesn’t work, get professional help.

Anonymous 9w

After reading these comments: Y’all really cry after sex that often? Every time I have it’s because something terrible was going through my head. Wtf. We need help. 🙃

Anonymous 9w

I’m fucking shocked at these comments all saying “ya ur good dude no worries” to this lol holy shit. I thought *I* was mentally messed up

Anonymous 9w

talk to her about it outside of a sexual context. explain that you know she keeps telling you she’s ok but you’re worried because she cries after every time. ask her if she could explain what’s going through her head when that happens. then ask if there’s anything you can do to make her feel better/help her/support her in the future if/when it happens

Anonymous 9w

It could be trauma but honestly sometimes I cry after sex for no reason at all. I think with all the crazy hormones and endorphins and emotions flooding ur system it totally makes sense to need the emotional release of tears afterwards

Anonymous 9w

Very weird and she should work through that. But you’re fine dw

Anonymous 9w

Idk I think that would bother me a little if I were you. But that’s probably something she needs to work on by herself

Anonymous 9w

Could it be drop?

Anonymous 9w

Omg I do that too I thought it was just me. Just comfort her it’s like her body is in shock atleast that is what it is for me. It’s like a subconscious panic

Anonymous 9w

Maybe her ex had better d and she can’t really tell you

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Anonymous

#5 9w

I mean there’s verbal confirmation that she says she’s okay, and she had a good time

Anonymous

#1 9w

Yeah I guess so. I have def cried after sex a couple times and none of those times were times where I was okay or would be honest about whether I enjoyed it. But hopefully OP’s gf is different I guess.

Anonymous

#5 9w

I cry every time and every time I’m okay and had a good time. It’s the feeling vulnerable your body might express that. It’s best to just comfort her to show his vulnerability too

Anonymous

#1 9w

Could you maybe elaborate on “regulating her system”? You mean like a hormone level thing?

Anonymous

#9 9w

I mean it does bother me obviously but it’s my job to figure things out and support her you know?

Anonymous

#12 9w

Thank you! I’ll keep that in mind - I like to think I’m pretty good about aftercare.

Anonymous

OP 9w

And you’re totally right for that. I think you should ask her about it but not right after you have sex. It might be easier for her to talk about that way. Tell her it makes you feel concerned for her and that it makes you feel like you did something wrong to her but focus a lot more on your worries for her than yourself

Anonymous

#13 9w

No literally, I was raised catholic (so raised to think sex was shameful) and also SA’ed yet not once have I ever cried after sex lmao

Anonymous

#9 9w

I really don’t know how to process this information. I had no idea it’s so common that people are like “meh, it’s whatever”

Anonymous

#13 9w

That’s why I asked the question 💀 like I can’t be casual about you crying on me naked rn

Anonymous

#5 9w

does she come from purity culture? if she grew up religious it could be good to ask about that, especially if you’re one of her first partners. Also is she orgasming? that lowkey can make people emotional

Anonymous

#14 9w

I don’t think she grew up very religious but like we’re from Texas so purity culture is definitely a thing here. And I’m pretty sure she’s orgasming at least most times 😅

Anonymous

#7 9w

maybe. it’s kinda small.

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Anonymous

OP 9w

Definitely, either way him and his girl breaking up

Anonymous

#13 9w

It’s like after I go into a ball and shed a couple tears. He cuddles me and tells me I’m okay. Then I go back to my annoying self🤣

Anonymous

#7 9w

nah she loves me and bakes me cookies 😊

Anonymous

OP 9w

Until it’s time to give her the d, then she just feels bad cause dude before her pipes better

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