Ask Women on Yik Yak | Redo: how do you accept the fact that you might be alone for the rest of your life I’m a 20F and I’ve never had a boyfriend or any type of relation and I believe I will probably end up alone

Yik Yak

Download

Join communities on Yik Yak Download

Ask Women 8w

Redo: how do you accept the fact that you might be alone for the rest of your life I’m a 20F and I’ve never had a boyfriend or any type of relation and I believe I will probably end up alone

Anonymous 8w

I’d say it’s a little soon to be thinking like this, I’m that might be annoying to hear but just give it time

🦇

Anonymous 8w

you’re only 20 babes that’s still young! there are plenty of people that don’t start to see dating success until they’re older. just enjoy your life, keep building yourself up and putting yourself out there and your time will come

Anonymous 8w

If it makes you feel any better, I didn’t have my first relationship until 21 , not really any experiences prior. As far as I know, he’s the first guy that had a crush on me and it was kinda unexpected. I just put myself out there and it worked out

Anonymous 8w

I think it’s kinda a self exploration of “why” you’re alone. If it’s cuz you won’t compromise on the big things that makes sense. If it’s cuz you want somebody with millions, a 6 pack and dropping in muscle; when you yourself don’t have that, I think it tells you you’re having unrealistic expectations. Life is weird, and as a women it’s not like there aren’t men who arn’t interested, it’s just about who’s interested. Eventually you come to terms with that.

Anonymous 8w

Feeling frustrated and discouraged is certainly a valid feeling, but it’s way too early to think that that’s actually the truth. Some people take longer to understand what they want out of life, what they have to offer to a partner, and then to come across a suitable partner, but waiting for the right person or time is better than rushing into it or giving up hope.

Anonymous 8w

You seem so dramatic for 20 🙃 I get being upset you haven’t had any experiences yet but to think that you are going to end up alone just because you haven’t had any yet at the super young age of 20 (and you know you are young) seems dramatic. This is coming from someone a lot older who hasn’t had any relationships either. Stop being so hopeless and maybe things will change for you. Maybe it’s your own hopelessness keeping you from meeting people 💀

-1

Anonymous

#5 8w

Of course I have standards and I’ve lowered them many times but For me my biggest thing is a guy who’s open to interracial dating and kids those are my deal breakers but there isn’t also anything to compromise with, I’ve never had a guy like me before sadly and I’ve never been on a date or ever got past a texting stage or meet up

Anonymous

#4 8w

Yeah I feel very frustrated most of my friends are in relationships and it sucks because I am truly alone who can I go hug or text or whatever they do! I never even been on a date which is so sad I don’t want to be 30 and freaking out about my very first date( no offense to those who do) but also I want kids in my future maybe around 28-29 I know it’s not ideal to plan it like that but I also don’t want to be 49 having my first kid if that makes sense

Anonymous

#4 8w

But thank you for the advice I do understand I apologize if it sounds like I’m being rude or anything it’s just so frustrating you know

Anonymous

#3 8w

Aww I love that truly sounds like a story book which I guess is the type of thing I’m looking for but I’m also panicked because I haven’t found anything and it’s so hard not to think relationship when half of my friends are in one you know

Anonymous

hellraiser 8w

😔yeah sometimes I think I look to far in the future but I also don’t fit the beauty standards of this society I feel like all the good ones or at least my type is taken by now

Anonymous

hellraiser 8w

May I ask are you in a relationship and if so how long was it until you found the one

Anonymous

#1 8w

😔that’s all I heard my entire life give it time while others got to experience a date but it’s hard to keep motivating myself when time keeps pushing without me like when is it going to be my turn to fall in love

🦇

Anonymous

OP 8w

i am in a relationship, i was single for 3 years not really looking for one but i started casually seeing a guy and it just happened

Anonymous

OP 8w

Yea that’s very relatable it really is, but what I’ve found personally is that feeling goes away more and more the more I’ve given myself the attention I craved from a loving partner

Anonymous

hellraiser 8w

I love that! It’s truly sweet I’m happy you’re happy! But one of my worries is if I don’t find the one in college that it’s going to be so hard to find him outside of college because what do I do? Like do I download apps or find him at my job 😩 I feel like I’m going crazy

🦇

Anonymous

OP 8w

i met mine on tinder surprisingly. not a bad idea tbh, just be upfront about what you want

Anonymous

#1 8w

But what do I do? Do I just live my life? How will I know where to find him or where he can find me if I’m not trying to be with someone if that makes sense

Anonymous

hellraiser 8w

Wow may I ask what generation are you because I’m in Gen Z and truly just from what I’ve seen it’s just a bunch of hook up cultures and FWB and I feel like it’s so normalized now

Anonymous

hellraiser 8w

I don’t want to say it’s a generational thing but what kept you going you know like what made you not lose hope

Anonymous

OP 8w

I like to think about it like this, I won’t find the woman I want by seeking her out, but I can attract the woman I want by becoming the man she’d want to be with

🦇

Anonymous

OP 8w

im also gen z, 21. tbh the past 3 years i was only doing hookups and casual stuff and thats all i wanted. my bf and i hooked up on the first date and were adamant that we didn’t want anything serious for a few months before we really started to fall for each other and changed our minds.

Anonymous

hellraiser 8w

But do I have to do that? Hook ups and stuff before I can find someone

🦇

Anonymous

OP 8w

to be clear, i do not recommend doing that to find a bf, i just tend to get lucky with stuff like that

Anonymous

hellraiser 8w

Ohh haha

🦇

Anonymous

OP 8w

yeahh i wouldn’t do a hookup before. you should look to find a genuine connection and wait

Anonymous

#7 8w

Sure I’m being dramatic but also there’s a lot of factors into dating than me judging being 20 like for 1. I don’t feel the beauty standards of this generation I believe I’m probably the ugliest person alive 2. A lot of men don’t like bigger girls which I know is somewhat a big thing now 3. My type of guy I kind of can’t find him in America per se haha but my type is complicated I guess 4. He has to be okay/ open minded with interracial dating

Anonymous

#7 8w

But I also have a few reasons of my own 1. Early menopause runs in my family so im a bit freaked out about all of this because my plan was to have a relationship by 25 and start having kids by 28-30 all the women in my family hit menopause at 35 😔 so its also a rush for time for me I guess plus most of my siblings aren’t in relationships they are in their 30s I feel like im losing out on things that I want to experience

Anonymous

#7 8w

I don’t expect you to understand for my dramatics but I feel hopeless because I feel like my life is being stripped from me I guess all my friends get to hit all these milestones and I don’t and it’s hard to celebrate when you feel like your failing

Anonymous

OP 8w

I promise you’re not the ugliest girl alive you’re most likely a lot more attractive than you think, what you’re looking for seems really specific tho! Maybe you can broaden your range a little bit you might even be overlooking ppl that are interested in you!

Anonymous

#7 8w

Just because you’ve been single longer does not mean you have the right to be rude to her and dismiss her feelings. You sounds so bitter and there’s no need to take it out on her.

Anonymous 8w

I have I am on ozempic I am 5’1 and 160 my goal with my doctor is 110-120 and facial wise I do want a face lift and a nose job and maybe a skin lighter/bleach

Anonymous

#1 8w

I appreciate this and I have lowered so many of my standards but the one I really can’t take away is someone being okay with mix race dating I love all races and would love to explore

Anonymous

#3 8w

Thank you I appreciate everything you all have said to me I am going to try to be a bit better and work on myself I know a relationship isn’t important but I just hope I get a chance to hit all those milestones you know get a boyfriend and have kids

Anonymous 8w

Well not ozempic but I’m on a zepbound for weight loss yes and I have changed a lot of my lifestyle due to zepbound

Anonymous 8w

I eat healthier and work out and stuff like that