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How do you know what your sexuality is? I’ve been confused for so many years and I’m so tired of it. It seems like something that should be a simple question to ask yourself but I am SO internally confused
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Anonymous 20w

I'll say this, OP: straight people generally don't have to wonder if they're straight

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Anonymous 20w

I was confused because I knew I was a hopeless romantic but I learned I was asexual because I couldn’t experience sexual attraction. I never saw it as a need and got the ick when people would peruse me sexually. At first,I wondered if I was just a lesbian, but I realized that I just didn’t like the idea of sex.At least, not the horniness of it. I saw sex as something that I was only okay or open to considering doing for the person I loved. Even then, I wouldn’t be disappointed if I never had sex

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Anonymous 19w

Its also not a one and done thing. Ppl dont like to hear this but your sexuality isnt necessarily static and may evolve over time

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Anonymous 19w

I figured out I was asexual midway through college. Before that, I always sort of guessed I was bi, because my feelings for both men and women were fairly muddled. Then in college I really understood the difference between sexual and romantic attraction, and realized I liked men and woman romantically, but neither sexually. Now I’m a proudly biromantic sex-repulsed ace😁

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Anonymous 20w

yes. I have always known. Tbh it might help if you just take the pressure off yourself and think of it as a person to person thing

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Anonymous 20w

I had a pretty easy journey to figuring out my sexuality. I could go into more detail but really what matters is you feel comfortable in how you feel. There’s no need to put a label on yourself. There’s no deadline to figuring out your sexuality or who you are attracted to. Sometimes just talking it out is easy. And queer is always a label you can put on yourself if you’d feel better with one. TLDR; Finding out yourself can be a real struggle and there’s no need to rush it at any point.

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Anonymous 20w

I don’t bother to decide mine. If I like a person, trust a person, feel attracted, feel at peace around them, get the racing heart and lose track of what my limbs are doing, then that’s my orientation for now. If Bailey makes me feel that way, I am Bailey-sexual.

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