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Am I overreacting over the fact that I was upset when I found out that my bf had a lap dance from a stripper a few years before he met me and started dating?
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Anonymous 4w

Tbh, yes. The past shouldn't be used against him especially when its been years

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Anonymous 4w

If you think it's gross, that's not overreacting. If you're actually mad at him, that seems like an overreaction.

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Anonymous 4w

My bf got that too before meeting me. I didn’t like knowing it but I know I can’t be upset about it since it was before he even knew me. So yeah you’re allowed to not like the fact that it happened but don’t stay upset and dwell on it

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Anonymous 4w

I mean it might not be the most comfortable thing to learn but anything that came before you is not really anything you can hold a grudge for. Unless he like cheated on someone but I imagine that’s not what happened here

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Anonymous 4w

if he looks back at that moment with glee and no ounce of shame then yeah you’re not overreacting. i would be upset too, i’m not a fan of the sex industry. but to each their own this is just my pov

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Anonymous replying to -> #5 4w

He said he didn’t enjoy it and he wouldn’t do it now even if he was single. He was not the one who paid for the stripper. He was present when his friends dad got him a stripper for his friends 21st to his house. So the stripper was basically going around dancing on everybody. But the stripper was clothed wearing a cop outfit doing so

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 4w

I was lowkey a little upset over him upon hearing that

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 4w

No he was single

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 4w

honestly this seems like the least-bad version of the situation

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 4w

Given the situation, why on earth would you be upset? 😭 the man didn’t seek it out or even enjoy it! It was YEARS before you??

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