Anonymous #3 1d

Yeah but they are allowed to choose to not have sex for a month if they want

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Anonymous OP 1d

Of course but it’s still really weird. Why are you in a committed relationship if you’re still doing the challenges high school boys make. Refusing to do anything intimate with a partner for an entire month defeats the purpose of dating. If you’re going to brush off your partner for your own gains (bc they gain nothing) what’s the point? Unless you’re waiting until marriage I don’t see the point of NNN in relationships

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Anonymous #3 1d

I mean yeah it is weird, but they are allowed to be childish if they want to

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Anonymous OP 1d

If you’re childish in your own relationship when it comes to sex you have bigger issues to worry about

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Anonymous #3 1d

There is no genuine absolute need to be childish about dating your partner or sex at all

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Anonymous #3 1d

Yeah how dare they stop having sex with you, you put in the tokens so you should be getting it

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Anonymous OP 1d

What?

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Anonymous #3 1d

I mean you’re kinda acting entitled about it

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Anonymous OP 1d

How does me saying denying a partner or refusing them of any form of physical contact bc of fear of getting boners or failing NNN entitlement? It’s weird while in a relationship and holds 0 benefit to the relationship at all. ATP why are you with them still? It’s literally not healthy to hold in cum? Are you stupid

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Anonymous strawberry_hair 1d

Oh yeah just complete emotional and physical deterioration of the relationship would be horrible.

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Anonymous #3 1d

I never said do it by force. I said consent is still consent? But refusing your partner of intimacy bc of a childish game is weird

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Anonymous #3 1d

You used the words “to force them to not have sex” in reference to them just choosing to not have sex with their partner for a month

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Anonymous #3 1d

I have seen men take it seriously and it doesn’t do much benefit to both parties in the end once December hits. Once it’s a no it’s a no but fully refusing to have sex simply over a challenge would be weird as we’ve stated in the original post. I’ve also seen it with clothing where they won’t want their partner in certain looks out of the fear of being turned in. Which can cause an emotional strain on a partner’s confidence whether they respect your decisions or not

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Anonymous OP 1d

No I used the words “force them to not have sex” in reference to the challenge itself. You can break NNN whenever. It’s ppl that will forcefully say no bc of the challenge not bc they genuinely don’t want to have sex with their partners

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Anonymous #3 1d

Like what 💀

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Anonymous #3 1d

In my opinion people can say no for whatever reason they want

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Anonymous OP 1d

If that’s a dumb or smart reason it doesn’t matter

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Anonymous OP 1d

Of course! When did I say they can’t? 😐

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Anonymous #3 1d

I don’t think it changes the fact it’s weird though

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Anonymous #3 1d

You’re arguing that their reason is dumb and therefore should just have sex with their partner, so I told you it doesn’t matter the reason if it’s dumb or not, it’s still no

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Anonymous OP 1d

Literally not what my argument is AT ALL but okay

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Anonymous #3 1d

And again I never contested the fact it’s weird, I only reminded you they are allowed to say no

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Anonymous #3 1d

Then why did you comment? I mentioned in my post that it was a dumb thing but that they are allowed to say no, but you commented for no reason I guess

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Anonymous OP 1d

I said consent and no are very valid. It doesn’t change that ppl do it out of spite and emotional strains in relationships. Doesn’t matter that it’s dumb. Refusing even the smallest intimacy with your partner for a month is weird. That includes things OTHER than sex?? It would be horrible to just tell a person they can’t hug you out of fears of getting hard. If you truly want to be intimate just be intimate who cares what other ppl think. That’s LITERALLY what I said.

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Anonymous #3 1d

Nothing in my comment said “yeah force your partner to have sex bc NNN is weird”. Why tf would I be encouraging assault. Like pls tell me

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Anonymous #3 1d

I mean you saying “force them to not have sex” kinda comes across like you’re going to force them

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Anonymous OP 1d

You said it’s weird when framed like that and it isn’t in reference to what the og OP said about relationships. They said it defeats the purpose. And it can. Bc why are you doing it out of a kink when not ejaculating is unhealthy hence the comments in the og post 😭

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Anonymous #3 1d

All I said was that it was weird and that they were allowed to do that if they want to

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Anonymous OP 1d

Are you arguing against that?

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Anonymous OP 1d

How? Unless you didn’t read correctly. I said it’s weird to force the PARTNER. Not YOU. To not have sex bc of a COMPETITION. Bc that’s all NNN has become. Competing with yourself or other men. No woman really benefits from NNN at all. NNN was meant to target porn addictions at first but if you’re just doing it bc it’s “fun”. Then yeah that’s a weird reason personally

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Anonymous #3 1d

Bc you can be celibate any time of the year. Why wait until November of each year to go a full month of no sex. Especially in relationships if you truly didn’t want to. That’s why I said of course in terms of consent no one is owed sex. Just the stigma of NNN entirely us stupid

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Anonymous #3 1d

Your usage of the word forced, when all they did was not consent is weird tbh

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Anonymous OP 1d

Then idk how to help you when its clearly not written in that way bc i didn’t beak when i said challenge or use a comma

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