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Okay I know it’s supposed to hurt the first time but like holy fuck he’s big and it hurts really bad???? Should I just let him do all the way next time will it hurt less???
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Anonymous 1d

To be fair, my first time didn’t hurt at all. Maybe a slight pinching, but if you stretch or do a sport that engages those muscles your body can accommodate better. I did horseback riding for example. I also think some people are just tighter. I myself have always been looser, like tampons don’t phase me or what not. It may take stretching, lube, or just time. Also some guys just aren’t pleasant to fit down there.

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Anonymous 1d

lube lube and more lube. if you think that it's enough lube, add some more.

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Anonymous 23h

I had to take time putting it in. Usually it hurts at first attempt, but then we just back up and go slower. A little bit of gentle pressure while continuously making out was enough for that area to loosen and accomodate

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Anonymous 1d

Did you use lube? Warm up with foreplay?

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Anonymous 17h

If it’s that big it’s going to hurt for the first few times. My second time having sex I couldn’t fit my hand around his shaft. I was miserable during it and it hurt so bad. But after a few times I guess I stretched out a little and it didn’t hurt anymore just a full feeling

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Anonymous 1d

Get dilators to stretch yourself and just work up to expectation/average.

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Anonymous replying to -> strawberry_hair 1d

It wasn’t too dry it just hurt…. Before I hid dick but not long because we wanted to try. He used his fingers on me a little but nothing super pleasing but like I think was turned on enough you know??? Maybe that could be something to try

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1d

Meant to say sucked his dick not hid oops

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1d

I think you need to stretch out longer next time because it sounds like you weren’t prepared enough

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Anonymous replying to -> strawberry_hair 1d

Ok thx strawb

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1d

Yeah that’s not lube. Try having him finger you for longer or eat you out. Communication is super key. If he’s not a dick he won’t want it to hurt for you.

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 20h

I have vaginismus and that’s what penetration feels like to me, like being ripped open. The medical way is to start with dilators. The smallest is usually a about a finger size, the largest is a little longer and a little slimmer than the average penis (According to google stats), work up to what size you need to be comfortable and learn to control your muscles. Once the dilator you’re on fits and you can have it inside and move it without discomfort, move onto the next. Sex sucks when it hurts.

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 20h

Oh and don’t listen to people that say do kegels. If you have vaginismus (which talk with your doctor but it’s relatively common and treatable) and your vagina is spastic (involuntary muscle tightning) then strengthening those muscles is the last thing you want to do, you need to train them to relax first and learn control, then you can make them as strong as you want later.

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 18h

This this so much. Lube, stretching, more lube, lube in him, I want you to have to place a towel down levels of lube.

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