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I need advice on a situation, disclaimer this is quite long. I’m black my bf is white. So for context my bf has said some insensitive things about my skin in the past. He’s told me I look like a shadow & has laughed about how he can’t see me on 1/2
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Anonymous 1w

he sounds childish asf tbh. don’t think ur overreacting

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Anonymous 1w

Girl you know what to do Uhnt uhnt

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Anonymous 1w

Yeah no you aren’t overreacting at all. He’s just being racist. You’ve told him multiple times it’s weird and bad (you should’ve have even need to tell him tbh) and he kept doing it

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Anonymous 1w

multiple occasions even after I expressed it made me uncomfortable. so today we’re laying in bed, in the dark. My head was under the covers and he snaps a pic of us where I’m clearly not visible. I get up to use the washroom & when I get back he asks me to check the pic he sent me & was eager for me to open it & had this smirk on his face. so I open it & I was confused because like I said I’m not visible in the picture & no flash was used.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1w

he kept saying it was a nice pic of us & saying he was trying to be cute but I think he was being shady & trying to make my skin the butt of his joke again. does that seem intentional or light hearted? we’re already on the verge of breaking up so if I know I’m not overreacting I can finally make peace with moving on.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1w

you said you expressed how it made you feel... he's clearly either ignoring that or just not getting it, and both are pretty bad when you've already told him how you feel. i don't think you need to give him the benefit of the doubt.

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 1w

I know but when you deal with someone manipulative that downplays everything you start to feel like you’re constantly overreacting 😭

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1w

Girl I wouldn’t care if I feel like I’m overreacting that’s a microagression

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 1w

My original question is do you think he was trying to intentionally embarrass me/ make my skin the butt of the joke again? I’ve already dumped him I just want to know I wasn’t overthinking that situation

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1w

In my honest opinion yes. And I’m glad that you dumped him. I think he should know by now how micro aggressions make us feel in the community and he was being highly insensitive and racist about it. If he cared about you he’d be more considerate of you as a person and of your skin color

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