Ask Women on Yik Yak | When the term incel is used, is it more because it became an insult or do you actively call them that because you are making fun of them not being able to get a girlfriend? Like ofc they shouldnt say that stuff but no need to be that mean right?

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Ask Women 1w

When the term incel is used, is it more because it became an insult or do you actively call them that because you are making fun of them not being able to get a girlfriend? Like ofc they shouldnt say that stuff but no need to be that mean right?

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Anonymous 1w

Well i think people call people incels because they're behaving like an incel

Anonymous 1w

Someone’s only an incel if they blame not being able to get with someone on women and are misogynistic

Anonymous 1w

Not gonna downvote but its kinda both for me, i think that 90+% of incels at this point are incels bc of (usually) theyre altright and use terms like sub5 based truecel (cel anything is just beyond saving). If its a wholesome guy just tryna find love and being inable then thats one thing, worthwhile to say that usually ppl like that wont put themselves in abrasive positions to be insulted on their celibacy. people that are entitled, and altright do though Which is when incel is tossed up

Anonymous 1w

i do not need to baby men who blame women for all their problems

Anonymous 1w

I call people incels when they act like incels (taking out their frustration over being single on women)

Anonymous 1w

Neither. Since you’re only an incel if they use misogyny to blame for their shortcomings or hate on women for being single and victim blame themselves. So I’d only use the term when you’re outright blaming women and other ppl for those things and being misogynistic. I’d just call it as it is I wouldn’t use it randomly as an insult

Anonymous 1w

Both tbh

Anonymous 1w

Because the second seems kinda unnecessarily mean if they are already lonely and depressed and that kinda shows they need help or support/compassion rather than being engaged in debates or insult contests. Or like ignored if they aren’t open to sympathy

Anonymous 1w

I’ve only ever called someone an incel on this app when he is being blatantly misogynistic and hateful. Basically spewing incel rhetoric

Anonymous 1w

Insult because most women derive their value from male attention and sex so they project a guy who can’t get sex as an ultimate insult lmao

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Anonymous

OP 1w

I’ll probably get downvotes for this which I’ll take but isn’t it better to rise above insults and try to be compassionate towards people who are probably hurting rather than just sinking to their level with name calling?

Anonymous

#1 1w

Incels are men who claim to be involuntarily virgins and instead of blaming themselves for that they blame women and other men

Anonymous

#1 1w

You can not be an incel by simply looking at women as individuals and with the same amount of respect you would have for men while not viewing men especially men who aren't virgins as competition or scum of the earth

Anonymous

#1 1w

I mean that’s a really unhealthy mindset that probably is a pretty good sign their mental health isn’t good. If they are depressed and think the world is against them, is calling them that necessary? Like it just gives them an identity to latch onto and probably only reinforces their behavior.

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Anonymous

OP 1w

Like yeah what they say is not okay but trying to be more compassionate or maybe just neutral towards them would at least not make them worse. And maybe once they stop hating themselves as much they will see the world isn’t as cruel and unfair as they think it is

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Anonymous

OP 1w

Why be compassionate towards individuals that BLAME me for their shortcomings? Im being compassionate towards people who aren't incels and happen to just be virgins. I would never be compassionate to people who expect me to sleep with them because they think its their right.

Anonymous

OP 1w

And if you willingly identify as an incel you have way bigger fish to fry

Anonymous

#1 1w

I mean you can choose to either way it is understandable if you get upset with them. But I believe being compassionate to them would be something that would be very good and altruistic to do. Ofc don’t sleep with them but maybe instead of name calling calming affirming that you don’t need to and remind them that everyone is their own person who doesn’t owe anyone anything, but that everyone goes through rough times of abandonment and they can reach out to their friends or family for support

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Anonymous

#1 1w

But yes ofc you don’t need to but I wouldn’t view it as almost heroic to be talked to that way but still find it within yourself to be compassionate and patient with someone who is clearly mentally unwell

Anonymous

OP 1w

*would

Anonymous

#2 1w

Feel free to respond to my comments under 1’s post

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Anonymous

#3 1w

Feel free to respond to my ideas under 1’s post

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Anonymous

OP 1w

I can’t see number 1 we must have eachother blocked. I explained myself

Anonymous

OP 1w

You were asking us why do you think we care about your ideas

Anonymous

OP 1w

Have you ever had an interaction with those people? They listen to nothing but themselves or people who agree with their ideologies. Maybe instead of trying to get everyone else to work around them they should be told to stop being dickheads and learn to view everyone as people

Anonymous

#2 1w

Yes thanks for sharing. If you wanted to converse more tho I wanted to offer :)

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Anonymous

#2 1w

Oh I guess long story short I was saying that incels seem obviously mentally unwell and maybe instead of name calling I’d view it as almost heroic to return their rhetoric with compassion and patience to maybe help them see the world isn’t as cruel or hateful as they seem to view it

Anonymous

#1 1w

I’ve seen it enough. I wasn’t trying to do anything tho thry need to work on themselves a ton too. But that’s also why I so heavily complimented being patient with them by describing it as heroic. It’s hard to do but I believe it would help more if these people maybe start to break free from their thinking

Anonymous

#1 1w

If you personally don’t want to do it that’s fine lol I’m not trying to force anyone although rising above that to treat anybody with respect even if they don’t deserve it as much is a very good healthy thing to do imo

Anonymous

OP 1w

I think that frankly this idea is idiotic. Are you trolling?

Anonymous

#1 1w

Because essentially all I got is "coddle incels so they love themselves more" as if adding fuel to the fire ever put out a fire 😭 want us to talk to pedos heroic in hopes they change for the better 🥺

Anonymous

#1 1w

No, but without getting into too much personal info I am a Christian so I believe in displaying compassion and forgiveness when I can. And if someone is just spewing stuff online it doesn’t affect me but if I can make the interaction just a little more pleasant and maybe introduce them to the idea that not everyone hates them it might help their mental health

Anonymous

#1 1w

Virgins shouldn't be shamed. Hell even "involuntary" virgins. But incels should because they are willingly standing for something bad.

Anonymous

#1 1w

Why do you seem so against this idea? It’s not like I’m forcing my ideas on you or saying you are a bad person for returning insults I’m just saying that there might be a better way that works out for everybody if you rise above what they say and see them for the hurt unwell person they are

Anonymous

OP 1w

And although what you're saying isn't wrong, it's not realistic. You're ideas would maybe help one out of thousands

Anonymous

#1 1w

When has shame ever been an effective tool to improve people’s lives or change their minds on certain beliefs?

Anonymous

OP 1w

Im not against it exactly I just think its incredibly idealistic. Not saying you're a bad person

Anonymous

OP 1w

And you're a Christian you should know the answer when it comes to shame 😂

Anonymous

#1 1w

Decency isn’t coddling. Also unlike pedos the worst crime incels commit is trolling online from my experience

Anonymous

#1 1w

Maybe not realistic who knows. But shaming them definitely hasn’t worked so why not try another way that has been shown to work in other cases?

Anonymous

#1 1w

I don’t want to get into any more details but I if you experienced any shame from Christians it wasn’t from those who share my beliefs. Ofc if something is wrong you should repent but shame in and of itself isn’t right. Christian’s were shamed for thousands of years and that didn’t change our beliefs

Anonymous

OP 1w

Well no because Christians were quite literally shamed into believing. Thats like a large basis of the religion in order to drive people deeper into christianity. That is why there is still sin.

Anonymous

OP 1w

Some people don’t deserve compassion and patience

Anonymous

OP 1w

And because im telling you its literally pointless to try to battle internet trolling with empathy 😂

Anonymous

#1 1w

And also even though I could take this comment as a jab at my religion I’ll choose to believe you didn’t mean it in an insulting way. When it comes to civil conversations tho it generally helps to not laugh at things like that tho

Anonymous

#1 1w

You would only be fueling their ego

Anonymous

#1 1w

What kind of anti-Christian propaganda have you been listening to. Also wdym by “that is why there is still sin”. There are plenty of actual Christian sources out there to look at vetted by actual scholars that will help you understand the belief system and history better

Anonymous

#1 1w

Also if you think it’s pointless then feel free to keep insulting mentally unwell people online if it makes you feel better I just fundamentally don’t view it as a good use of time

Anonymous

OP 1w

Laugh at the idea that trollings with resonate with your empathy? I will laugh because that's so incredibly unrealistic I am trying to keep taking you seriously. A troll's biggest thing is negativity and your positivity will only fuel the negative (if that makes sense)

Anonymous

OP 1w

And when i do interact with them mug it as well make it have more of a point

Anonymous

#1 1w

I’m not wondering if you are trolling now. I was talking about you seemingly laughing at your own general misunderstandings of Christians and shame. As for the positivity fueling negativity it is generally known that negativity fuels negativity not positivity.

Anonymous

#5 1w

And trying to help those kinds of guys doesn’t work, they don’t care about anything women have to say, most of the time they don’t listen to other men either I don’t owe incels kindness

Anonymous

OP 1w

I was telling you how TROLLS operate. They operate on good or bad attention. If you try the positive route they will simply work harder to upset you and play obtuse

Anonymous

OP 1w

If being an incel meant being depressed you can’t get into a relationship and that was the extent of it, people would be more compassionate towards them. Unfortunately in reality, incels have proven themselves to be violent and hostile while preaching hateful ideologies. There are so many cases of shootings, murders, crimes against children, etc. Mind you too, most incels accept the title and call themselves such.

Anonymous

#3 6d

This literally makes no sense.

Anonymous

#8 6d

How many incel shootings and murders have happened in 2025?

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Anonymous

basedgigatruecel 6d

Going ahead and deleting my reply after I seen that username. Not even going down this rabbit hole with you

Anonymous

basedgigatruecel 6d

Don’t wanna hear it from u

Anonymous

#3 6d

I would know better than anyone.

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Anonymous

basedgigatruecel 6d

Yeah cause you are one 😭 and despite me never having it I’m not