Ask Women on Yik Yak | My bf broke up w me bc he’s “not ready” for the next step/commitment. We have been dating a year and I was going to move there in May but he doesn’t want to make a life decision and isn’t ready to do that. Any advice or how to get thru this?

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My bf broke up w me bc he’s “not ready” for the next step/commitment. We have been dating a year and I was going to move there in May but he doesn’t want to make a life decision and isn’t ready to do that. Any advice or how to get thru this?

Anonymous 6w

Take yourself out of the timeline of the relationship. Don’t think “we’ve been together for a year and we were supposed to move in together in may,” think about setting yourself up. Get something you can look forward to so you can forget about worrying (ie figure out your living plans). Then, realize that the disappointment and grief is because you had certainty, not because you have to feel let down. Breakups are tough, but they’re hard because they demand contribution.

Anonymous

#1 6w

The best thing to do is to think optimistically and positively about where you want to go next. You have to re/build the future that doesn’t have him in it, which takes time, but it’s much easier to move forward when you have something to move forward to. The vision has changed, the outlook doesn’t have to. It’s your life, anyway. You can still see through a cracked window babe