Ask Women on Yik Yak | What date would it be ok to offer to cook at my place? 2nd? 3rd? 4th? I personally love to cook so it’d be more about wanting her to taste my cooking than to go to my place to do other “stuff”

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Ask Women 16w

What date would it be ok to offer to cook at my place? 2nd? 3rd? 4th? I personally love to cook so it’d be more about wanting her to taste my cooking than to go to my place to do other “stuff”

Anonymous 16w

3rd-4th but it also depends on length between dates. My boyfriend cooked for me on our 3rd date and I spent the night too, but there was a three month period between when we starting talking to our 3rd date because work and school picked up.

Anonymous

#2 16w

See I’d be fine with my date spending the night but I’d really rather not do anything sexual that early so would it be better to wait for a later date to avoid that?

Anonymous

OP 16w

Well she can spend the night and nothing sexual happens, I did. I didn’t have sex that night, we hung out ate dinner, went to bars back to his home and binged movies did we make out yes but it stopped there. Didn’t have sex until like date 8, he cooked again then asked me to be his girlfriend.

Anonymous

#2 16w

I’ve done it before where we spent more than one night together with nothing remotely sexual happening and it was great. That was years ago, and it seems like that kind of thing is really hard to find nowadays

Anonymous

OP 16w

Do consider cuddling to be sexual, because I’m being honest if we accept coming to your place for a date it’s because we feel comfortable with you; you’ve made us comfortable enough to be in your space. And in that space watching movies or playing games someone may want to cuddle or just lay on the couch.

Anonymous

#2 16w

No I do not consider cuddling sexual. Ofc the male body makes its own decision but I really don’t want it to be inherently sexual

Anonymous

OP 16w

That is true and we understand that but if no sex is what you want then that’s also your boundary for her to respect.

Anonymous

#2 16w

Appreciate you responding. My main concern was if inviting someone over to my place would make it seem like a “Netflix and chill” kinda thing when that’s not what I want

Anonymous

OP 16w

It only gives Netflix and chill vibe if the dinner isn’t genuine, like if it’s takeout then that’s also gives Netflix and chill but a good home cooked meal, maybe a game or two and then movies gives a thought out date plan.

Anonymous

#2 16w

Haha there’s no way, it takes like 3 hours to cook the best things in my arsenal. Really appreciate the feedback from you!

Anonymous

OP 16w

Hey of course, hope you have a great date!!

Anonymous

#2 16w

Ah these are just ideas for the future lol