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hi genuine question i’m a girl and no guy i’ve had a crush on has ever liked me back (to my knowledge), yet i get a lot of attention from guys i’m not into. i don’t get it, especially because this isn’t a “i only like guys who don’t like me situation”
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Anonymous 2d

Forewarning am a guy, what kind of guys are you into and what kind of guys are into you

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Anonymous 2d

You might like “higher quality” men who have options and therefore aren’t likely to like you, meanwhile the men you don’t think the same way

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 2d

guys who are intelligent, kinda nerdy and are at least somewhat active that i find attractive

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 2d

i’m not really into like the player type at all tbh i like more nerdy guys? so i don’t really know what i’m doing wrong

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 2d

Keep your course, am in the same boat and went for girls who had more problems than i could fix, it didn’t end well

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 2d

to answer the second question usually the guys that are into me are eager, extroverted and kinda shy

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 2d

As a nerdy guy, it is a possibility that your definition of nerdy guy could differ and that is the cause, but also guys like that are often receptive to different types of flirting, which is a factor

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 2d

To follow up though, I guess my point is you should curate your flirting to the person because real nerds like engineers and sci-fi geeks are often socially irregular and honestly just want someone who will do the things they like with them. Are you a nerd yourself?

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 1d

yeah that makes sense, i’m more into guys that are more balanced though with like nerdy stuff and being social and exercising just cause that’s how i am. i would definitely say im a nerd more in regards to biology/geography/literature not sci-fi/engineering. i also don’t look nerdy so idk

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1d

have you tried being blunt about it? my bf had a huge crush on me before we started dating and i still genuinely had to spell it out for him that i was interested in him

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Anonymous replying to -> #5 1d

This is all guys want lmao just go to ask men

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 1d

op unless you have said the words “i’m interested in you romantically”, “do you wanna make out”, or “can i give you my number i want you to take me on a date”. and been rejected, there is a very solid chance they didn’t know you were interested in them. ESPECIALLY if they were nerdy and shy.

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Anonymous replying to -> #5 1d

hmmm yeah that’s a good point. the only thing i feel like i would have gotten some inadvertent signals (body language, how much attention they give you, how much they want to talk to you) that they’re interested in me and i just couldn’t fully tell how they felt. and usually you can tell when a guy likes you i guess?

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1d

you better hope that those nerdy guys didn’t have some sort of social disorder because you’ll be trying to read body language but their disorders will say something else when really they want something else

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1d

You’re underestimating how much shy guys hide this stuff

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 1d

i did try to gauge interest though through like dming and stuff and i just didn’t feel like they saw me that way? like i wasn’t getting a romantically interested vibe from them

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1d

Maybe they’re not. But trust me, they can and often will do anything in their power to convince themselves you aren’t interested in them

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 1d

i don’t really know what to do about that though, especially if i’m showing him i’m interested? like how do you work around that especially since im not super bold and can be kinda shy too when it comes to these things

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