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Why do so many women automatically assume male gynecologist are creeps? I’m a guy studying to be a gyno and it really feels like I’m gonna just be seen as a freak
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Anonymous 14w

I understand the impulse cause it’s a sensitive “area” and mistrust is natural that said have a male gyno and he’s been great but it’s more a law of averages thing

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Anonymous 14w

I don’t think they’re creeps at all but I’m still more comfortable discussing women related issues with a person that goes through it themselves and can be a relatable person to speak to

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Anonymous 14w

I def don’t think they’re creeps! I would just personally not want one bc it would make me uncomfortable but I know a lot of women prefer them and have had great experiences. Good luck

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Anonymous 14w

A lot of it comes from our general experiences with creeps in general and how many of us have been screwed over by doctors at one point or another. Just be the best you you can be. I think you’re awesome— my mom had HPV turn into cervical cancer and almost didn’t find out about it until stage IV.

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Anonymous 14w

Unfortunately, there are a lot of stories of male gynecologist taking advantage of their patients, unknowingly impregnating them, assaulting them, not taking their medical needs serious, etc. I’m not saying female gynecologis always take the needs of their patient seriously because the reverse happens often too, but there is a larger risk when it comes with men. Of course every male gynaecologist isn’t like that, but it is something that women are wary of.

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Anonymous 14w

I don’t think every make gyno is a creep but I’m definitely more cautious of them. What’s your reason for wanting to go into the field?

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Anonymous 14w

not saying ur a creep but out of all the medical specialties why did you pick that one ?

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Anonymous replying to -> hellraiser 14w

My mom died of ovarian cancer

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 14w

My mom died of ovarian cancer. So it’s kinda my way of honoring her and helping people so that they don’t have the same fate

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 14w

Definitely makes sense. I think just be aware some women may be extra cautious of men but a lot of women also have make gynos that they really like and trust. I’m sure you’ll be great.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 14w

Literally that’s probably the sweetest shit Ive heard all day. Idk if this has any relevance here but I’m a straight dude and that hit home man. Good for you and you have my sincerest condolences and support. Kind of future gyno I would want my wife to be professionally evaluated by. Best of luck in your endeavors man❤️

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 14w

I cant even rn like I think I’m going to go cry for a sec. This shit gave me goodebumps😭🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 14w

Goosebumps*

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 14w

That.. makes a lot of sense I think for a lot of us we just get suspicious of why a guy would want to become a gyno, in your case the motivation obviously makes sense but for others I think there’s often a suspicion

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Anonymous replying to -> #10 14w

By why is the assumption always that it’s nefarious? I get it that a lot of men suck, but it’s not the same with any other field of medicine. People don’t assume the worst of pediatricians, they’re just seen as people that want to help. I feel that my desire to help being seen as nefarious is just really disheartening

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 14w

No offence but it’s alot harder for people to take advantage of a child when it comes to paediatric care vs gynaecology. We were all kids once and can relate to that part of life. It’s a whole lot easier for a woman to be distrustful of someone who can’t relate to her experiences especially in the current environment around women’s health. You have the best intentions possible which is refreshing but that doesn’t take away from the fact that other men didn’t and have done really shitty things

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 14w

Yeah it’s just something that you’re gonna have to be aware of. People have perceptions based on their very real experiences. For example, a lot of poc are mistrusting of white doctors bc the medical field has been historically racist. That’s just something white doctors have to be mindful of. And as a male in a field caring for women it’s just something you’ll have to be aware of as well.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 14w

my guy. it is different because you chose a profession in which you are looking at vaginas. im glad you’re not creepy or nefarious, and i hope you go on to do great things but the difference is in other fields you aren’t specialized in a sex organ of the opposite sex

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Anonymous replying to -> hellraiser 14w

You do realize that gynecology isn’t just “looking at vaginas”. You people sound so immature.

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Anonymous 14w

Ngl the chat is showing that he was pushed to have that reaction. Maybe if he wasn’t approached with hostility or being told that the excuse for an innocent man being treated like shit is due to experiences he had no part in then it would have been accepted better. Keep shifting blame hun🫶🏼

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 14w

There’s a difference between being cautious and treating someone like shit because someone else treated them poorly

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 14w

That just makes you justify yourself being an asshole because someone was an asshole to you.

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 14w

Here someone stole my money so im going to rob someone else

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 14w

Here someone cheated on me so Im going to cheat

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 14w

My mother beat me as a child so im going to beat my children

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 14w

This is a mentality that therapists help break.

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 14w

You are valid for feeling the need to feel cautious especially if you’ve been treated poorly in a certain situation. However, feeling being validated does not allow a person to mistreat others

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 14w

yes im aware that the medical field of gynecology is not just looking at vaginas… im trying to explain to you why some women may be uncomfortable with a man examining their intimate parts. if you cannot recognize why women may be slightly uneasy with this then you may not be ready to be a gynecologist

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Anonymous 14w

Okay karen

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Anonymous 13w

big ol kiss for you

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Anonymous 13w

mwahh

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Anonymous replying to -> hellraiser 13w

can i have one too?

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