Anonymous #1 1d

I’m was born without it. I don’t know how. I just hate myself so much every day. It’s such a vague trait. I don’t need to love me, I want to love someone else. I’m just so tired, and the validity needs to come from someone else.

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Anonymous OP 1d

I*

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Anonymous OP 1d

Confidence is, you mean? Idk it might be easier to gain confidence than to lose weight, depending on your life

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Anonymous #1 1d

I’ve lose 70 pounds, I feel nothing. I just hate myself more because it’s obviously not good enough.

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Anonymous OP 1d

Yeah obviously the issue is in your head bro. Most body image issues are

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Anonymous strawberry_hair 19h

They don’t exist in my universe apparently or if they do they are bigger than me. Which is not being just meant, but I can’t carry someone else’s weight issues when I want to hurt myself over mine everyday.

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Anonymous OP 19h

Judgmental*

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Anonymous OP 18h

Wait so you want someone who acknowledges the struggles you have with weight but you don’t do the same for them? You HAVE to be bigger than them?

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Anonymous strawberry_hair 18h

Don’t. I cannot help what I’m attracted too. I am aware of the hypocrisy and I wish I felt different, but all my life I was told being fat was the worst thing someone could be. I have tried therapy to get out of this mindset. I can’t. I’ve lost 70 fucking pounds and I still hate my body when I look in the mirror. I cannot date someone bigger because I would be a cancer to them, not because I don’t want to.

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Anonymous OP 13h

It sounds like you shouldn’t be dating at all. You aren’t happy in yourself and you shouldn’t be with anyone like this. You would probably be bad towards anyone, taking how you feel on others. Go get therapy please. That’s the only way you can have a healthy relationship.

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Anonymous strawberry_hair 13h

I have tried therapy it won’t fix my body issues, I was kicked out of a group for a facility for eating disorders for talking negatively on the concept of body positivity. I’m looking at other therapies but the only ones I can find are over the phone and not in person.

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Anonymous OP 12h

It sounds to me quite honestly like you don’t want to change at all. You claim it won’t fix your body issues and you’ve lost weight but that’s not enough. You seem to genuinely hate yourself. You should not be dating, you should be finding self love.

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Anonymous strawberry_hair 12h

I don’t need to love myself to love somebody else

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Anonymous OP 11h

You actually do. Because you can’t pour from an empty cup

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Anonymous strawberry_hair 10h

If you have any suggestion on therapists I’m listening.

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Anonymous OP 9h

There isn’t much a therapist can do unless you want to change your mind about yourself. There isn’t a magic word or exercise that will suddenly shift your world view. If you’re determined to see yourself as unattractive, no one can change your mind but you. That’s the whole point of body positivity. To embrace yourself bit by bit so the negativity and self loathing doesn’t keep you mired as you try to improve. See it less as glorifying and more like keeping the bad at bay so you can work.

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Anonymous OP 7h

Five is exactly right

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Anonymous #5 5h

That makes a lot more sense than what was being presented to me but I’m sure binary thinking and stubbornness did not help.

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