Anonymous #1 18h

And that’s the thing is that I do have a plan for it, like him and I have already discussed multiple times what the plan would look like if this exact scenario happened, but now he’s in a way going back against everything we had previously discussed

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Anonymous #2 18h

It was almost always him since I had my own place at the time and he didn’t, so he would stay at my place for a few days every time he came to visit

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Anonymous OP 18h

So he feels that would continue and now he’s 6 hours round trip, that’s a big ask. He’s opened the door to take a break so you need to consider it

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Anonymous OP 18h

I would suggest taking a break then at the very least, both people need to be committed to a relationship to make it work. It's a dumb analogy but two people can't play tug of war when one person drops the rope

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Anonymous #2 18h

I’ve been thinking about it very heavily too honestly because not only is it such a long trip (which, honestly I wouldn’t mind making the trip myself, but he refuses to let me stay with him and his family and I can’t afford a hotel room every time I want to see him which was what we resorted to every time I went to see him) he knowingly took up a job position that’d make it significantly harder for us to see each other

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Anonymous #1 18h

See comment thread with #2 because it would honestly be a very similar response here

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Anonymous OP 18h

Seems like it’s an obvious choice, one he may of started by taking a job farther away as well

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Anonymous #3 18h

I’ll keep a long story short So in my college (I don’t know what it’s like at other places, so I may be preaching to the choir), you have to maintain a 2.0 GPA institutionally every academic year, and if you don’t, you either have to get put on academic probation or get your scholarship taken away (for the first offense of this, like mine would be) They ended up skipping both of those things and just straight up kicked me out, I’m trying to appeal it because of them skipping the “strikes”

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Anonymous OP 18h

Damn. What major?

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Anonymous #2 18h

It’s not that it’s further away, it’s at the same building, but it’s at later hours (so we can’t really call anymore) and he no longer has weekends off (when one of us would normally have to go up to see the other, so we’d both have to put in comp time ahead of time for us to see each other since I only have weekends off)

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Anonymous #4 18h

See the reply to #3

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Anonymous #4 18h

Philosophy major with a double minor in English and communications (I wanted to be a professor or a teacher)

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Anonymous OP 18h

yeah the major definitely matters, but how did you only have a 2.0? should’ve reached out to one of us to help you study

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Anonymous #3 18h

1. Three of my classes weren’t for my major but for core credits, two of them were math classes (which I used to excel in) and one was a chem & bio class (and I honestly sucked at both, but I had many friends who were majoring within those subjects in some way, so I figured I could get help from them) 2. I went to every tutor I could, went to one on one sessions with professors, and even asked many friends for help (especially in my stats class), but none of it helped and I still couldn’t get it

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Anonymous #3 18h

3. Lastly, I couldn’t get approved for academic accommodations even though I’m hard of hearing and so most of it sounded like muffled junk, no matter how close I sat to the desk

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Anonymous #5 15h

In my case, it COULD be that, but it could also be related to the fact that I also found out that I found out I’d need a hearing aid a few days ago and so I had no proof I needed the accommodations for my classes

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