i try to try doing things i don’t think i’ll like at least once. depends on the thing of course, but i would also just leave. if the activity is just not your thing you can express that to your friends and tell them that you’d prefer to leave instead when they do it, but they don’t have to stop. if its a large percentage of activities your friends do that you have no interest in it might be better to find different friends, but the occasional one should be fine to leave w/ the right ppl

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I definitely have the same problem. I feel so selfish but like I’m genuinely fine if they do it without me! And I don’t wanna stay and be bored because I have no ability to fake interest and I feel like I’ll ruin the vibe. But like you said they usually just end up doing something I am interested in even tho I tell them I really don’t mind if they do the other thing without me. But I’m worried they are like building up resentment about it idk

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And my friends are nice too, and so they will be like ‘we can do different activity and you stay’ but then I feel like I manipulated them? But I really would equally happily just go home if they want to do their activity. I guess it seems like an ultimatum I am giving them but I don’t mean anything by it really. Does this make sense? How do I act more mature with it?

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I’ve felt like this at times, though not sure if it’s the same as your experience. What are you feeling when you get the urge to leave? Is it just “not especially interested so I’m gonna peace out,” or is it a demand avoidance thing, or do aspects of the activities themselves make you anxious or upset? I think knowing yourself and being able to analyze the “why” behind your reactions is the first step (which you may have already done)

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i personally wouldn’t mind it. it seems like you’re being accommodating bc everyone gets to spend their time how they want. if my friends are doing something and i don’t want to do it i leave! you only have one life and it’s too short for anyone to do anything they don’t want to. especially when it comes to hanging out with friends

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