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Because of co-morbid disorders and health issues I sometimes have so much trouble completing basic tasks and it makes me feel so weak willed. My boyfriend tells me to just push through and idk how to make him understand that I am trying. Any advice?
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Anonymous 1w

Make a list of your condition names and the most common symptoms. Highlight the ones that impact you the most. Ask to go over it together and ask him how he views his responsibilities in the relationship when it comes to your struggles so you know up front what to expect from him. Also see if he has struggles that he sees as equal to yours. Either he’ll say he didn’t know how to help and he’ll be excited to learn & talk, or he won’t see how it’s his problem (aka he’s not right for you)

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Anonymous 1w

“Oh I didn’t think of that! Thanks!”

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Anonymous replying to -> vibe_panda2613 1w

Thank you so much, this is actually the most helpful advice I’ve gotten on this topic. I just texted him and asked if this would help him understand and he said yes. He’s also on the spectrum so giving him just the facts about each disorder should be really effective.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1w

OH! Ok if he’s also on the spectrum go overboard on making it clear what physical task he can do to help and explaining the tangible/logistic impact that would come from each support task. My bf struggles so much with figuring out what to do and freezes bc he doesn’t understand how to be sensitive to intense emotions. But if I say the emotions are just a symptom and what I really need is tea or help getting ready for bed, he feels so proud to understand the assignment.

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Anonymous replying to -> vibe_panda2613 1w

That’s perfect! He’s always so willing to help so I know for a fact it’s just a problem of not understanding why I feel the way I do and how he can fix it.

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 1w

I’m gonna be so fr, listen to the panda instead of me

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 1w

Is this necessary?

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1w

This is funny idk why I’m being downvoted

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 1w

Lmao I see why they’re mad but this was actually hilarious. (Only bc it wasn’t the first answer.)

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