Autistic girl community on Yik Yak | I am back to spiraling on whether or not I am autistic. A lot of signs point to yes, like my old journals sound like masking manuals, but I don’t feel like I mask and I can’t remember actually ever doing it? I hate being so stuck though

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I am back to spiraling on whether or not I am autistic. A lot of signs point to yes, like my old journals sound like masking manuals, but I don’t feel like I mask and I can’t remember actually ever doing it? I hate being so stuck though - any advice?

Anonymous 15w

I didn’t think I masked since I thought you had to be actively aware of it but it can become unconscious where you don’t even realize you are doing it.

Anonymous 15w

honestly i’d suggest reevaluating the importance of knowing. we now live in a country where there are way more cons than pros when it comes to diagnosis. there is no cure for ASD and supportive social programs are currently being obliterated so no real point in trying to get a diagnosis for accommodations in adulthood and should you try to get medicated they would most likely just put you on anxiety meds that you can get from one psych appointment after simply saying “i have a lot of anxiety”

Anonymous

#2 15w

ur brain works the way it works, the only things that will change that are meds, time, and therapy. nobody will ever understand ur brain like u do. being told “u have autism” won’t do anything for u other than validate ur suspicions. it won’t change how ur brain works, it won’t make the world a more accommodating place, and it won’t change the way ur day to day. the validation is nice but it is not necessary in the least and it’s very unlikely to have the unsticking effect u expect it to have

Anonymous

#2 15w

ur just a person with a brain and that’s fine. autistic people are super cool and more often then not we’ve got fun little quirks and cool qualities the normies don’t get so id encourage you to try to reframe ur view of autism from something that is bound to make life harder and hold people back, and instead try to just appreciate the cool wacky things about your brain

Anonymous

#2 15w

it’s hard when you appreciate the cool wacky things about your brain but other people don’t and you have no real understanding of why. i think in that situation it’s helpful to know if you’re autistic or not, at least it was for me. not formally diagnosed and never looking to be due to the issues you brought up, but being able to relate to the identity has helped me a lot in loving myself more

Anonymous

#3 15w

not trying to be passive aggressive or anything, genuinely curious- what is the separation between loving yourself more because you started appreciating that your brain works differently and because you were able to relate to the identity?

Anonymous

#2 15w

knowing WHY my brain works differently was the big thing. constantly spiraling over being clearly not “normal” but having no idea why was incredibly hard. relating to the identity helped me better understand what i was going through. there’s a lot of good tips online from others with the identity for living a better life when your brain isn’t “normal” that i never would’ve seen if i just brute force tried to accept myself as i was

Anonymous

#3 15w

Yeah I never considered official diagnosis anyway- if anything I wanted to talk to a therapist about it off the record. The main thing is that I am currently in really poor mental health (and have been for a decade or more) and none of the expected fixes are working, so I want to have a better /clearer understanding of the core problems.