Autistic girl community on Yik Yak | Decided to stop begging my best friend to hang out (just to see if she would ask to hang out, she never asks) We haven’t seen each other in 3 weeks now. Why do I always assume people are as close to me as I feel.

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Autistic girl community 12w

Decided to stop begging my best friend to hang out (just to see if she would ask to hang out, she never asks) We haven’t seen each other in 3 weeks now. Why do I always assume people are as close to me as I feel.

Anonymous 12w

this is always the reason i stop being friends with people. i realize i'm the only one who ever texts first and so i stop to see what happens. nothing ever happens and we just dont ever talk again

Anonymous 12w

ik this isn’t the point of your post, but i never ask my friends to hang out and i love hanging out with them. i just suck at initiating hang outs, so our dynamics have them initiating and me accepting. if they stopped asking i would assume they were busy and wait until they weren’t, have you communicated that you want her to initiate?

Anonymous 12w

this is so painfully true

Anonymous

#1 12w

Just wanna check, have you told your friends that’s why you don’t initiate hangouts? Just bc when I have a friend who never initiates with me I usually feel like it’s bc they don’t care abt me or think I’m worth the effort and then I eventually stop initiating for my mental health, & I’ve seen a lot of ppl share similar experiences. Genuinely not trying to be rude or aggressive but if I was in your friends shoes I’d assume you don’t care about me if you never initiated

Anonymous

#2 12w

i have! we’ve communicated and they are ok with it. i also accept the fact that i am not a suitable friend for people who can’t initiate most/all the time for their mental health. i’m very lucky to have found the friends i currently have and make sure they know how much they mean to me in other ways

Anonymous

#1 12w

Glad to hear it :)