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Chronic Illness 15w
How do i get people my age to understand that i dont want to/can’t “go out” and do shit like bar hopping and getting drinks. Like yes i get it im 27 im supposed to be at the club, but like even if i wasnt in pain. Its just not my thing 1/2
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Anonymous 15w

It makes me feel like no one is listening to what i have to say. Ive told this one friend a few times i dont do that kinda thing and especially now since i have fucking fibromyalgia, and for some reason she suggested we do shit like that next weekend. Like bro this is why i dont fucking talk to anyone, yall wanna do whatever tf yall wanna do but dont give a fuck about what i want/need or what can/can’t do

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Anonymous 15w

Fr, like not even touching on the fibro (I also have it), just I don’t like bars, drinking, partying, loud venues and stuff like that. I’d like friends my age who are down to chill and play board games or whatever. The friends I did have like that unfortunately all live where I went to college, over 4 hrs away 😭

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 15w

Just remember that sometimes people who don’t have the condition can’t understand the pain or why you can’t go out but if you have told them several times and they don’t take your desires into consideration, it may be time to cut them off. Sometimes my friends forget about the sound triggers I have with my seizures but I can’t blame them when music is a big thing but they try their best to keep it in check around me. And if they wanna go to a club they just tell me they’re going with others-

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 15w

-and I don’t make them feel bad for doing what they want to either. Friendship goes both ways regardless what we have 🫂 you deserve better friends G

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 15w

I’ve been having a similar issue with my family tho bc they like going on hikes, rock climbing, snowmobiling, golfing and such. And I can’t do any of those for as long as they want to bc of pain, and they don’t even believe my pain most of the time and get annoyed by me being in pain. I could golf I guess, but I have zero interest in that. So they just do stuff without me and I just sit at home depressed. I hate it, but I’ll feel less excluded once I move

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 15w

I will say my fellow disabled/chronically ill friends have been more understanding, supportive, and accommodating. Just wish we didn’t live so far away and didn’t drift apart

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 15w

Yeah i never liked going out like that. Its never been been my thing. But because im 27 and young, im supposed to. And my friends do those things, and expect me to no matter how many times i say i can’t. And i can go out, its just so situational and depending on what we do i can’t stay out too long.

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 15w

Like today instead i took myself out to gamestop to buy stuff. I was only out for maybe 2 hours?? Not even but i had to do a lot of walking, im so fucking tired rn i could pass out. But people dont understand, nor do they care to

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 15w

I never make anyone feel bad for going out without me or not returning my texts for xyz reason, but for some reason i dont get that same compassion returned

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