Anonymous #1 4w

obviously you’re going to be in shock but if don’t know what to do walk away get to your class don’t stare & watch me you have better things u need to be doing if ur not going to help…

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Anonymous OP 4w

that’s how rational thinking works but not how shock works. people freeze.

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Anonymous #1 4w

i’m confused what the back nd forth is abt… ur “opinion” mean absolutely nothing to me it’s sick like i said my roommate should not have had to yell at someone to call the ambulance and had to put me in recovery position all on her own cs nb was doing sht.

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Anonymous OP 4w

you’ll understand if you ever encounter an emergency you don’t know how to handle. i’m just saying don’t feel badly that you think people were being ‘rude’ when they probably just froze in fear or didn’t know what to do. it’s nice of your roommate to do that for you, but as a fellow chronically ill person, random people in public do not owe you any kind of emergency medical care, and if they don’t know what they’re doing, it can be much more harm than good if they try to provide it.

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Anonymous #1 4w

sweetie pie when did i ever say “rude”?! & if they don’t owe me anything like i said multiple times WALK AWAY & you don’t know me so how would you know that i haven’t been in emergency situations & that i haven’t handled them instead of just standing there?! if i personally didn’t know how to handle it i would call someone who could or get help it’s not that damn hard everyone & their momma knows how to dial 911 so stop arguing w me ml

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Anonymous OP 4w

you’re getting really combative and inflammatory over someone trying to make you feel better over something you were not even able to reliably witness, probably not ideal in your condition.

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Anonymous #1 4w

lol ur not making me feel better whatsoever ur rlly bad at it horrible actually & ur being dismissive over something that has nothing to do with you it wasn’t ur situation so u can’t tell me how to feel!!

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Anonymous OP 4w

have a great day!

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Anonymous #3 4w

thank you ml 😘

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Anonymous #1 4w

I feel like would also feel violated and angry if people just stood around watching you have a seizure like it was some sort of spectacle. And you are sure as hell not saying anything that would make anyone (let alone OP) feel better. The bystander effect is a real problem in society and should not be dismissed as ok

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Anonymous #4 4w

i have had people stand around while i had a medical emergency. the fight, flight, or freeze response is also a real phenomenon. i’ve also been in a situation where all i could do was call 911, bc i wasn’t qualified to administer medical aid, and the 911 operator literally screamed at me that too many people were calling about the same issue and hung up. was just trying to tell them “standing around” is not always a deliberate response.

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Anonymous #4 4w

in the short term, validating someone’s feelings may calm them down, but in the long term, explaining why things around them work the way they do will better enable them to cope with their surroundings.

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Anonymous #4 4w

the bystander effect is a problem, but that is when someone adds to bullying or emotional abuse by not stepping in when they see someone doing something they know is wrong to someone else. people aren’t bullying you by freezing when they see something frightening to them.

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Anonymous #1 4w

Yea no, the bystander effect means no body will do anything bc they assume someone else will. That’s why you have to point at people and say “you call 911, you get an AED” and so on. I just feel like criticizing someone when they are expressing the distress they went through is completely uncalled for.

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Anonymous #4 4w

You have valid points, but you need to read the room. There is a time and place for discussions like this. This post is not one of them

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Anonymous #4 4w

i mean i also just expressed i have been in the same situation, and you’re criticizing me. 🤷 that is how you’re supposed to handle emergency management (as someone cpr, first aid, etc. certified— the situation where i was not qualified to administer aid was an infant) but not what the bystander effect is— for it to be the bystander effect someone has to be either encouraging others not to call 911 or making the conscious decision not to because of social pressure.

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Anonymous #4 4w

the original response obviously was not criticism, and if you decide it’s a “bad time” to teach people how to respond to an emergency, it’s never going to get done before the next one

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Anonymous #4 4w

i thank you sm for understanding where i was coming from ♥️

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Anonymous #4 4w

I wouldn’t correct you if I wasn’t 100% certain of the definition.

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Anonymous #1 4w

You’re correct, your original response wasn’t. It’s what is following

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Anonymous OP 4w

I hope you’re feeling better and taking the time to recover. ❤️

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Anonymous #4 4w

thank you thank you ☺️

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Anonymous #4 4w

there are multiple definitions, and both i presented were correct; your original example was incorrect. i also wouldn’t bother correcting someone if i wasn’t 100% sure.

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