We want someone to look at us specifically and go “oh my god that’s horrible, let me help”. It’s a primal response to say “I’m hurt the most, please help me first”.
It’s a survival instinct that unfortunately warped into a competition of suffering.
Why is it that some of the most dismissive people I run into about my chronic pain are the people who also suffer from chronic pain? Why is it a competition? It sucks for everyone