Chronic Illness on Yik Yak | Is anyone else ever afraid of advocating for themselves because they’re worried it’ll come across as just. Looking for special privilege? Like if I have to miss a class because of a flare up I’m afraid the prof will think I just wanna skip :(

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Chronic Illness 19h

Is anyone else ever afraid of advocating for themselves because they’re worried it’ll come across as just. Looking for special privilege? Like if I have to miss a class because of a flare up I’m afraid the prof will think I just wanna skip :(

Anonymous 19h

I always throw in a little acknowledgement of the scheduled topic from the syllabus and online materials to help. Like my emails will look like “dear dr. Blah blah, I am unable to attend class today due to medical reasons. Other than reviewing chapter 10’s PowerPoint per the syllabus, is there anything else I need to do to stay up to date on today’s class discussion? Thank you for your time”

Anonymous 18h

It doesn’t really matter what it comes across as because they aren’t the ones living in your body. I know a lot of people experience people pleasing issues though especially people that are newly diagnosed.

Anonymous 9h

I understand this so bad :(( I’ve been applying for accommodations at school and one of my needs is a private bedroom and bathroom. They denied both and I dont know why. I’m worried if I appeal or try to explain it will just sound like I’m making excuses and just want my own room but that’s not it at all:(

Anonymous 12h

I’ve never related to something so hard omg.

Anonymous 7h

I can’t even advocate for myself at the dr bc I always feel they’re judging me or think I’m faking or something regardless of blood tests

Anonymous

#1 18h

It lets them know I do want to be there (which I do), and that I would be there if I could. I do what I can from bed while I rest but even if I don’t actually do what the email says they think I did and that’s the important stuff

Anonymous

#1 17h

That’s such a good idea thank you 😭

Anonymous

#2 17h

I mean it kind of does… a lot of professors at my school have absence policies where they do medical absences (usually with doctors notes) but skipping is allowed… maybe twice. So it can take a toll on my grade if they think I’m faking and I miss class >2 times

Anonymous

OP 15h

maybe talk to your school’s disability office abt an attendance accommodation? im able to have two extra absences so i have at least 5 absences for every class this semester, and maybe add a part that says you dont need to provide a docs note for the absences too esp if you have a dynamic disability

Anonymous

OP 15h

That’s why it’s vital to access disability services at your school for this so you can have accommodations. Legally, your instructors cannot deny accommodations. That’s what I did at my school. And if a professor tries to deny an accommodation they get in big trouble and don’t ever do it again based on my own experience

Anonymous

#5 9h

what are you saying to them for your reasons as to why you need a private bedroom/bathroom? i could maybe help bc i was also able to get a single and a private accessible bathroom when my school was asking me about it i mostly explained my physical limitations like needing specific sleeping conditions, privacy to take meds, inability to stand for showers, stomach issues, etc and how it connected to the disability i put down

Anonymous

#3 9h

i did need like mad zoom meetings for this tho 💔 i think i had 5 zoom meetings and then 1 in person meeting just to adjust my accommodations for next year to include an ac in the room

Anonymous

#5 9h

No bc same?? I finally got an attached bathroom, but they put up such a fight I had to get one of the leading researchers on my condition to send in a doctor’s note 😭 it should not be *that hard* I’m just lucky I live in Missouri and the guy’s located in St Louis….. pays to have connections ig