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Warm take but on some level, sex in a relationship is 100% transactional. Not in a monetary sense, but in an emotional manner. If you do not make your partner happy (with dates, favors, etc), you can’t reasonably expect them to want to sleep with you
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Anonymous 1d

no i agree. i feel like a lot of people think they’re ‘owed’ sex in a relationship just bc they’re in a relationship. but you still need to put effort into your partner if you want them to feel comfortable enough/attracted enough to you to have sex

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Anonymous 1d

I think there’s a valid conversation to be had about weapon sex in a relationship in the sense of using it to manipulate your partner into doing what you want. But generally speaking if the agreed established expectations of that relationship (whatever they may be) are not being met on either side, you cannot expect the other side to happily engage in sexual expressions of love

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Anonymous 1d

On the other hand if you keep rejecting your partner when they initiate sex, there will be consequences, either cheating or breaking up

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Anonymous 1d

My problem is that I'm hypersexual as fuck in relationships. So even when I'm MAD AS FUCK at my man, I still wanna smash 😭 like even moreso. That's when I throw him on the bed and borderline strangle him while I-

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 1d

I would argue that those consequences are necessary because clearly there are needs that are not being met on both sides of the relationship. If one partner feels that they shouldn’t have to meet certain emotional expectations in order to have sex with their partner and the other one feels like they do then that’s clearly an impass. Either they reestablish the expectations or they break up.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1d

Not the cheating though. You absolutely lost me there. That is not, nor ever will it be a reasonable consequence for that kind of thing.

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 1d

HOWEVER. If I'm genuinely dismayed/super sad/feeling heartache, nope.

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 1d

This is me too

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 1d

It was so bad tho, my most recent ex started pissing me off on purpose (not playfully, would legit say/do really fucked shit) so that I'd dom him instead of just asking me to dom him 😐

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