Anonymous #1 14h

sex definitely matters buddy. check out r/deadbedrooms

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Anonymous OP 14h

Not for me it’s not that deep

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Anonymous OP 13h

YES THIS!! the religious aspect gets me every time. it’s stupid at the end of the day bc we’re all ppl and it’s a natural part of life. it’s paradoxically pure in its impurity

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Anonymous #3 13h

Hahah. Tell this to my ex. Very religious (Baptist) and our relationship was so rocky due to this. Thus I feel like a bad man for wanting such things.

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Anonymous #4 13h

you’re not a bad man. it’s 100% natural. but the bible, when read from a fundamentalist pov, can be extremely toxic and invalidate literal human nature

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Anonymous #3 13h

Yea. That’s what it felt like. It felt like bc I couldn’t go without trying to be intimate I was in the wrong and she was right. But I guess just my nature a bit

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Anonymous #4 13h

many religious ppl can have a superiority complex , and im sorry you were made to feel that way for having normal desires. suppressing natural urges is unhealthy. it leads to shame and other issues that take years of therapy to unlearn

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Anonymous #3 13h

dont get me started on women taking mens last names, and men being able to have multiple wives in multiple religions, while women can only have one husband. very misogynistic

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Anonymous OP 13h

Well thank you for the nice words. She was a sweetheart, or that’s what I tell myself. But yea I def was suppressing things like that and now I feel a way bout myself for feeling that

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Anonymous OP 13h

YES and in islam the dating thing. like dating isn’t allowed but they’re much more lenient with men than they are with women. and when they pray the men and women are separated into different rooms so the men “don’t get distracted by them” while praying

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Anonymous #6 12h

Like I understand the mindset and I’m not saying every 15 or 16 year old should be sleeping together but it gets to a point at which they have other ways of having sex. Like removing beds aren’t going to stop it

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Anonymous #1 12h

Sex doesn’t matter but if you want children it might

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Anonymous #6 12h

Not everyone can have children anyways

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Anonymous #6 12h

I mean you can have different sex drives and still have kids

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Anonymous #7 12h

im not advocating giving it up to everybody, thats also another extreme... im advocating against doing absolutely nothing before marriage. both are unhealthy. if you and ur partner have both literally never had sex before... how will they know what they want and how often they want it? sexual incompatibility IS REAL and can destroy relationships. this is like asking a blind person to tell u their favorite color

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Anonymous #9 10h

huh? im not being mean , everything i said was facts lol

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Anonymous #9 10h

serious question why are u anti divorce if u don’t like being anti divorce

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Anonymous #3 10h

right 😭 it's giving this

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Anonymous #1 10h

It matters 100%. Sexual compatibility is just as important and attraction and personality and other parts that make up a relationship. If one doesn’t care about sex but the others does, it will affect the relationship.

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Anonymous OP 10h

or may i suggest this

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Anonymous #3 10h

Oh believe divorce is and can be necessary(abuse/cheating). But I am to choose one man for the rest of life. It’s more of a “this is very good” (choosing partnership) rather than that’s very bad (choosing not to be partners) Like having 3-4 marriages is depressing

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Anonymous #3 10h

It’s like being anti murder but u recognize in some cases are different

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Anonymous #9 9h

people can change, grow apart, etc etc. divorce isnt always a bad thing- staying in an unfulfilling marriage just to say that ur still married, IS a bad thing

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Anonymous OP 9h

So ur just telling me ur different opinion okay!! U are also assuming people stay in marriages JUST to say they are married

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Anonymous #5 6h

yeah but it can all be just thoughts and no real action, led me to actually get a divorce a year in, sucks to have to explain to people that you’ve been married and divorced within a year on being married

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Anonymous #1 6h

because you have a low sex drive and you’re just never thinking about it

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