
Unfortunately the guys who do this and would need this lesson are going to LIKE you doing that. They’ll take the extra attention as a compliment. Or they’ll use it as an excuse to justify their own bad behavior. The guys who DON’T do these things and don’t need the lessons are gonna be the ones you actually make uncomfortable and they’ll just withdraw and shut down rather than defend you.
Exactly!! When men are harassed, it usually doesn’t come with the same fear of things like assault, stalking, or worse. (Obviously not in every case.) But if the roles were reversed, most men wouldn’t experience the same fear women do, because women are statistically far less likely to commit those follow-up acts of violence. That’s what makes the experience so different — it’s not just the harassment itself, it’s what can come after that makes it so scary for us.
Exactly! And the guys who WOULD feel any fear or discomfort would do so based on social and emotional awareness (being awkward, not wanting a stranger in their space, not knowing how to get the person to stop without coming off threatening etc.), which means they already have the emotional intelligence to NOT need this lesson.