Anonymous #3 1d

We dated for 5 months and like seriously fell in love but then he found out about my secret preexisting “real” boyfriend. So basically he found out I was using him to cheat.

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Anonymous OP 1d

Stay away from him good lord. You’ve done enough

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Anonymous #4 1d

I stayed away from him for 6 months, but then we spent last night and the night before together

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Anonymous OP 1d

girl are you fucking fr.

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Anonymous OP 1d

Nothing you can do; you’re a bad person lmao my god

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Anonymous #1 1d

Yeah.

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Anonymous OP 1d

Are you on CRACK?

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Anonymous #5 1d

I’m actively trying to become a better person

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Anonymous OP 1d

baby stay away from him

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Anonymous OP 1d

You ain’t helping your cause

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Anonymous #6 1d

He’s the one who asked me to spend the night though

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Anonymous #4 1d

It might not help, but does it hurt?

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Anonymous OP 1d

Yes because you’re apparently easy

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Anonymous OP 1d

Keep staying away from him. He doesn’t need you and you don’t deserve him

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Anonymous #5 1d

I’m not easy.

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Anonymous #4 1d

I know I don’t deserve him but I’m trying to become a better person for him to deserve

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Anonymous OP 1d

You actively choosing to engage with him is nuts

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Anonymous OP 1d

Beg to differ

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Anonymous #4 1d

Why’s it crazy to engage with him after he asked me to stay over and I’m trying to work to make things right?

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Anonymous #5 1d

Okay? You literally know nothing

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What? No. I got on this app just to make a random post about wanting to win him back. I know I’m not a good person, but I’m trying to get better

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Anonymous #7 1d

I never like intended it. When we met he assumed I was single and he asked me out and I said yes not thinking anything would come of it. I never expected to fall in love with him.

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Anonymous OP 1d

YOU SAID YES TO A DATE WHILE IN A RELATIONSHIP ARE YOU INSANE?

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Anonymous #5 1d

Maybe I’m insane. Idk. I was just thought maybe it’d make me happy. He came along at a point in my life where I felt like I had nothing and mo one so I said yes to the date to have a brief moment of happiness just for me

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Anonymous OP 1d

Nothing and no one… but you had a bf? Explain? Why weren’t you happy?

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Anonymous OP 1d

He deserves space from you

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Anonymous OP 1d

You’re easy and a cheater. Leave them alone.

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Anonymous #7 1d

My bf is an abusive prick and it’s kinda hard to feel happy and like you have a support system when you’re being abused

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Anonymous OP 1d

Would you be okay with your boyfriend to go on random dates with girls?

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Anonymous #8 1d

I might be a cheater but I’m not easy.

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Anonymous #8 1d

He can do whatever he wants. I hate him. My only issue would be fear he’d physically hurt the other girls like he does to me.

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Anonymous OP 1d

YOU’RE STILL WITH YOUR BF⁉️⁉️⁉️

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Anonymous OP 1d

Is or was? Ex bf?

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Anonymous OP 1d

Why are you still with him?

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Anonymous #8 1d

I live with him and I’m kinda suck. I don’t have resources or a good support system. Months ago I worked in secret to be able to leave and spent a lot of time on it and got really really close but then when the cheating thing came out shit hit the fan and my plans got ruined and I’ve been too depressed to try again.

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Anonymous #5 1d

Is

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Anonymous OP 1d

Damn. Easy enough to ruin your own plans you were meticulously working on. smh Should’ve ignored this other guy — not fuck with his life in your baggage — and focused on getting yourself out of the mess that you’re in

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Anonymous #9 1d

have you read what she said about the situation…

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Anonymous #1 1d

Yeah and it don’t matter. Best to move on

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Anonymous #9 1d

I’m not really chasing him, when I saw him a few nights ago it’s because he invited me over

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Anonymous OP 1d

A better person would accept that they don’t deserve to be taken back after doing what you’ve done.

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Anonymous #11 1d

I did do that for a long time. I just kept on loving him and missing him and when he asked me to come over I couldn’t physically say no

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Anonymous OP 1d

Tell him he deserves someone more considerate who’s not a self-serving liar. He’ll be better off.

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Anonymous #11 1d

I lied about one thing but I never lied to him about anything else. I’m not self serving. When he ended things with me 6 months ago I did tell him he deserved better than me, and when I was at his place a couple nights ago I told him it again.

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Anonymous OP 1d

Thinking you should win him back is self serving.

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Anonymous #11 1d

Okay I’ll concede that it is a little bit self serving. I don’t think I *should* though, I just want to. I know we can’t always get what we want. If he had me back though I wouldn’t be selfish, I’d spend every day of my life giving him the love he deserves

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Anonymous #12 1d

He lowk already admitted tbh that when he sees me he goes crazy but he hates that feeling apparently

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Anonymous OP 1d

lol as a guy I get it

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Anonymous OP 1d

Does this other guy know about the abuse? And when you saw him a couple nights ago did you hookup? It’s a messed up situation but if you can start being honest and especially if you’re being truthful about not having talked to him for 6 months then maybe you can fix this. Priority #1 is leaving your abusive bf tho.

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Anonymous #7 1d

No he doesn’t know about the abuse. When he found out about the cheating idk I got scared to tell him everting and I knew it wouldn’t help the fact that I still hurt him so I never said anything. We did stuff but we didn’t have like actual sex. I spent the night too.

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Anonymous OP 1d

It’s good that y’all didn’t have sex but tbh if you genuinely want to become a better person and fix things you need to not do anything sexual for a while, tell him about the abuse, and have just open honest communication

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It’s not my fault he wants to see me

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Anonymous OP 1d

Its your fault for agreeing to go instead of fixing yourself

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Anonymous OP 1d

Bird brain

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Anonymous #5 1d

I’ve spent the last 6 months staying away from him and trying to fix myself.

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Anonymous OP 1d

Should be doing an eternity

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He might not know what he wants but that doesn’t mean he’s in a state of delusion

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I’m not evil.

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Hey no, too far dude. She’s not evil for making a bad decision while she was stuck in an abusive relationship. What she did was fucked up but far from evil.

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I guess we have different definitions of evil. I don’t think it’s evil to fall in love on accident

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Okay well then you’re evil. It’s evil asf to call an abuse victim evil for making one bad choice. You are evil.

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Anonymous #7 1d

Telling him about the abuse won’t change what you did though. Wanna make that clear.

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Anonymous #9 1d

We aren’t chasing no more, yall ruined it hahaha like wut

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Anonymous #7 23h

I know, but tbh that’s why I never told him. I didn’t want it to seem like some dumb excuse.

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Anonymous #14 20h

It’s not his responsibility to save me and after how much I hurt him I doubt he’d want to

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Anonymous OP 17h

It wouldn’t have been a dumb excuse, it’d be the context and full truth he rightfully deserves. You don’t have to go into detail but I suggest telling him if you’re insisting on continuing to see him

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Anonymous #7 17h

Fun lil update actually: took your advice a couple hours ago and I told him and now he’s giving me another chance!

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Anonymous OP 17h

Jesus Christ. Maybe you shouldn’t have told him. Glad you’re being honest, not glad he’s giving you another chance so immediately

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Anonymous #7 16h

It’s not a bad thing that we love each other

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