There’s a common perception, especially among women, that most men aren’t good people. In dating, basic respect or emotional maturity is often treated as rare. But this overlooks the reality many men face. The dating pool, particularly online, is flooded with men, creating intense competition and leaving many feeling invisible- not because they lack character, but because they don’t stand out in the ways that get noticed.
This disconnect creates frustration on both sides. Women feel exhausted by constant disappointment, while men feel discouraged despite trying to be kind, stable, or emotionally present. It’s not that most men are bad, and it’s not that most women are unreasonable. It’s that both are navigating a system that amplifies the worst parts of modern dating and leaves very little room for empathy or understanding.
on PINTEREST bro? damn one time i posted a video on my instagram at the time (that didn’t show my face) of me playing a Bb chromatic scale on xylophone when i was a freshman in high school and some 30+ year old dude commented asking me on a taco bell valentine’s day date (it was september) the only people that followed me and that i followed were band friends and my family really so idk how that dude found me. i was a public account but like still ??
i was wearing long sleeves and long pants and the bill of my hat was blocking my face like you deadass couldn’t see anything and also i was like 14 and he was like “you’re so beautiful can we be taco bell valentines” or some shit idk it was like 8 years ago so idr fully pinterest is crazy work tho