Anonymous #1 1w

explain please

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Anonymous OP 1w

The stereotype that majority of black prove are loud, insufferable, and constantly paint everything as racism. Constantly trying to steal or fight, and never taking accountability.

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Anonymous #1 1w

what other stereotypes do you have for other races that hinder you from talking to them?

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Anonymous #3 1w

i’m not proving myself to anyone. i don’t have any concern for people who are racially prejudiced. i just like to pick people’s brains.

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Anonymous OP 1w

Indians who are too touchy with women, and are also trying to scam you in business transactions, any whites person who’s in a sales position because they will scam you…. People don’t associate with all types of people. Black peoples are a whole are normally avoided because a very small percentage want to contribute. Most inner city black people make it a point to stay in their current situation and you’re an Uncle Tom for working a “white job” I’d you try to better yourself.

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Anonymous #2 1w

i can see the anxiety with that but how can that be relevant in non-racial contexts and situations? for example, i’ll have a great conversation, joke around, share my hobbies and interests, mention that i am black, then poof. i have had people tell me outright that they love my personality and talking to me. from the moment it’s known that i’m black, it disappears and they are gone. it makes me wonder why people value me less over something like that.

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Anonymous #1 1w

I’m friends with many black people, my great grandfather was black, and half sisters dad is also black. But there’s a huge defining line between ghetto and just black. Unfortunately the majority that people meet are ghetto

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Anonymous OP 1w

Could just be a preference. There’s a bunch of white girls who will only date black men, even in their tinder bios say chocolate only or something like that. Some people aren’t attracted to blacks, it’s not racist just not attracted

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Anonymous OP 1w

as you get older, you’ll worry less about mankind! I live a happy life and I don’t care about anyone but myself and those I love. I don’t care to make new friends!

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Anonymous #1 1w

hmm, i see. what percentage doesn’t want to contribute to what? also, what ways do you notice i portray those views in a way that would make you want to avoid me?

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Anonymous #1 1w

i understand the sentiment around preferences but there is always a root and reason to the preference. that is what i am trying to pick apart. not the morality surrounding it.

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Anonymous OP 1w

I personally haven’t said I’d avoid you. And idk a % per se but I’d say the majority of successful contributing people aren’t posting these things on social media, they are also over powered by how loudly the other side acts. It’s cultural, and the media pushes those people to the front and champions them, while people (perhaps like yourself) are left to deal with the consequences

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Anonymous OP 1w

It becomes relevant the second it’s mentioned. If you’re having an anonymous conversation and suddenly you reveal yourself to be black, boom: race becomes relevant. It’s irrelevant in the grand scheme of things but in an anonymous discussion, you can only work with the information you know. Ergo, the reaction. Again, you could just be talking to racists. My initial theory is just a guess. A flimsy one at that.

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Anonymous OP 1w

I have nothing against black people but I’m rarely attracted to them. There are very few that I am sexually attracted to. Being as this app is all horn dogs they ghost you after conversation cause they didn’t want to fuck. Similar to how many would treat a severely over weight woman

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Anonymous #1 1w

I have always wanted to ask a person with racial preferences what exactly about that race do you find unattractive. In a totally non judgmental way. It’s just that I’ve never been like: “Oh yikes, you’re (whatever race)? Sorry. I find you guys collectively unattractive.” I assume that’s an exaggerated version of the sentiment but what are the specifics? Hell, what is the non exaggerated thought? Purely out of curiosity.

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Anonymous #1 1w

“black peoples are a whole are normally avoided…” is what i’m reading. i am black, so that means i would be normally avoided. my experiences validate that, even after my person/values are known. i’m still interested in the percentage since it’s stated that it’s a small “percentage”. you bring a really great point about cultural/media portrayal. it matters how people are presented. my only criticism is how you can view the person who cannot distinguish between necessary vs. assumptive avoidance.

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Anonymous #2 1w

this is a great question

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Anonymous #4 1w

i see where that can be true. i can feel that way. in my experience, i have already related to and connected with these people, so it wouldn’t be very applicable in my personal context.

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Anonymous OP 1w

That’s where black fatigue comes in…most people…of all races…are so tired of dealing with the side we don’t like, it’s not worth the risk to associate at all and find out if they’re like that. As to having a full conversation then avoiding that’s just up to sexual preference

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Anonymous #4 1w

In various screen tests for movies and shows, they found that specifically white people have trouble relating to non-white protagonists and those movies/shows do worse when not specifically targeting non-white demographics. It didn’t translate the same the other way around though. So, all of this makes sense in some specific situations.

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Anonymous #1 1w

You sound so racist

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Anonymous #6 1w

My point, it’s not racism. But you automatically going there is why prime don’t want to deal with it

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Anonymous #6 1w

Yeah this sounds like ignorance. I find it difficult to paint every person I meet in the same stereotypical light without knowing at least a modicum of information about them. I don’t see a black person and immediately think “wow they’re going to be loud and steal.” Do I know loud black people that steal? Yeah, but I know very quiet black people that would die if someone thought they did anything unsavory also. Individuals are too different to think like that.

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Anonymous #2 1w

You’re missing the entire point. She didn’t ask what I thought specifically, she asked why in general that happens. I stated why it happens in general. Are there outliers to the equation? Sure you personally may never dream of doing such a thing. That does not negate the fact many other do it. Your experience is not universal.

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Anonymous #1 1w

I’m not saying my experience is universal. I’m saying it sounds more like ignorance than racism. But I mean I suppose one breeds the other.

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