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Is secretly talking on the phone to a guy friend until almost two in the morning cheating?
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Anonymous 1d

If you’re hiding it from your partner, it’s probably at least emotionally cheating. If they know about it and it isn’t breaking any set boundaries in the relationship, I don’t see the issue.

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Anonymous 1d

I’ve totally done this as a guy with a girl friend before, all that matters is your intentions. If you ain’t tryna cheat then you ain’t cheating. Don’t take that too far tho

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Anonymous 1d

I wouldn’t say it’s necessarily cheating but depends on the boundaries in your relationship and the topic of conversation a slight gray area if anything

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Anonymous 1d

It might not be cheating in the physical sense but it can still be emotional cheating

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Anonymous 23h

I think this sounds like it could become cheating very quickly considering you don’t sound like you actually want to be with your fiance. It’s definitely a boundary that should be talked about before things go further for all of your sakes.

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Anonymous 1d

No

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Anonymous 1d

Not at all

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Anonymous 1d

Why do u have a guy friend in the first place

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 1d

This!!

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Anonymous replying to -> #7 1d

Idk I don’t usually. He’s a newer friend and I just really like spending time with him. I also like hoe he talks to me like I’m a capable adult

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1d

Why don’t u date him then?

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Anonymous replying to -> #7 1d

Well I’m already engaged and everyone really wants me to stay with this guy

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1d

Ur engaged and secretly talk to him at night? Hmm are you saying you don’t wanna be with ur current guy but everyone does so that’s why ur with him?

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Anonymous replying to -> #7 1d

Yeah pretty much

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Anonymous replying to -> #8 1d

He’d kill me if he knew about it so that’s why I have to hide it

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1d

Then at the very least you’re being dishonest in the relationship.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1d

Yeah so that confirms ur a cheater

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Anonymous replying to -> #7 1d

How does that confirm it?

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Anonymous replying to -> #7 1d

Because having friends is healthy

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1d

How much do you have to hate yourself to stay in a relationship you don’t like

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Anonymous replying to -> #9 1d

It’s not about hating myself, it’s about loyalty to my family

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1d

your gonna be so miserable though if you don’t wanna marry him! Why is your family making you?

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Anonymous replying to -> starlette 1d

Because he’s wealthy, has a good career, comes from a good family, is very devoutly religious, and can give me a good future. Plus if we were married it would help both our family’s business interests according to my dad

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1d

I don’t think anything I say could change your mind but it sounds like you come from a decent family aswell. I’d really consider breaking things off your life is gonna be miserable if you can’t stand him

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Anonymous replying to -> starlette 1d

Honestly I want my mind to be changed so so so badly. But I can’t get over the fact that if I broke things off my parents would kick me out and shun me so I’d lose all my loved ones and be homeless

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Anonymous replying to -> mountain.girl 23h

I don’t necessarily think it’s cheating yet btw. It being a secret is not good though. If your fiance considers you talking to another guy cheating then it is cheating to him regardless of what anyone else thinks. It’s the secrecy of it all that’s sketchy. Maybe he’d be fine if you just told him about this friend.

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Anonymous replying to -> mountain.girl 23h

Tbh I don’t think it’ll become physical cheating at all since I’m waiting til marriage and literally the only thing I’ve ever done is a couple small pecking kisses

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Anonymous replying to -> mountain.girl 23h

I can’t tell him about the friend since I’m not supposed to talk to other men

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 22h

Okay so then you know this is a boundary you aren’t suppose to cross. Which in my eyes is cheating girl. I don’t see this ending well. My husband doesn’t care if I have guy friends but he would care if I was secretly talking to one behind his back. Especially because it sounds like this other guy makes you feel good.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 22h

Not going to lie I think emotionally cheating is worse though. So you gotta think about this and determine if it’s something you’re willing to deal with the consequences of getting caught.

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Anonymous replying to -> mountain.girl 22h

Does it count as emotionally cheating if I literally don’t have any feelings at all for my fiance and only have feelings for my guy friend? Because like I’m not two timing, I only have feelings for one guy

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Anonymous replying to -> mountain.girl 22h

I wouldn’t call it a boundary because to him gods word is biblical law, so he sees me talking to men outside my family as me sinning against god and breaking the law

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 22h

That is emotionally cheating. Doesn’t matter if you aren’t in love with your fiance. Youre still in a relationship with him and falling for another guy. It sounds like you’ve got a lot of stuff to figure out and I hope you do. Truly.

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Anonymous replying to -> mountain.girl 22h

In my defense, it’s not up to me that I’m in the relationship

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 22h

Who choose it for u arrange marriage?

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 22h

My parents chose it for me

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 22h

Can u get out of it

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 22h

If I broke it off my parents would disown me so I’d be homeless and lose all my loved ones

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 22h

I’m in the middle of a sim sit now

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