I think it’s important to remember that no one person is perfect, and neither can a relationship be. You grow and change together, hence why relationships (and marriages) take work from both of you to stay successful. When we go into relationships fearful of failure, so we expect it to need to be perfect and feel easy, that’s when they fail, because we stopped expecting to work. Stopped expecting change. When you go in knowing that, with someone else who knows it to, fears of failure ease