My husband is like this and it’s one of my biggest issues with him. He literally can’t cook anything because his mom did it all for him grow up. And before we met he mostly lived off of fast food if not his mom’s cooking. So if I don’t cook at, we both starve essentially because I can’t rely on him at all
weaponized incompetence. it is emotionally easier for people who fit a traditional role to not have to do something by gaslighting others (e.g. “oh but ~you’re~ so good at it!”) than to take two seconds to throw some frozen veg in the microwave if they see that as an emasculating task. it’s a question of maturity, not actual capability.