Anonymous #1 8w

Because the majority of the world is the opposite. It’s so rare that I feel a strong connection with anybody

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Anonymous OP 8w

Tbh those of us who have trouble with our emotions and communication have a hard time connecting to each other as well. Because we're too emotionally unavailable to connect in the first place

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Anonymous #2 8w

Well, on the opposite end, I see you as fitting in with the majority.

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Anonymous OP 8w

I don't think the problem is fitting in, no one is ostracizing people for having good parents, we're just too fucked up to trust people and when someone is being genuine it feels like a freaking trap and it's scary

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Anonymous #2 8w

Shit idk maybe I’m confused. Maybe I’m halfway similar. My parents were emotionally unavailable half the time but somehow I ended up communicative and available to others. Maybe I struggle being available to myself. I’m sorry that was your experience growing up 😩 😩

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Anonymous #1 8w

I’m coming from the angle of being the one who attracts those who run away rather than talking through things. I feel like I’d much rather be on their side than be the one who gets left hanging

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Anonymous OP 8w

That actually makes sense, it must really suck for you to have to suffer for other people's trauma. Just so know, a lot of us don't blame people like that, so you don't need to feel bad about scaring anyone off. It's more that we scare ourselves, cuz if I tell you my problems that makes them real, and know I actually have to acknowledge them.

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Anonymous OP 8w

For me the mental abuse caused me to be a people pleaser until I just gave up on that and now I just cut everyone off. Like why start relationships with anyone if I know it’s gonna end with me isolating myself. I feel like so many people just weren’t given the attention they really needed to thrive as adults. It’s definitely hard for both sides in that way bc it’s a struggle.

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Anonymous #1 8w

But it’s like it will keep eating at you until it’s acknowledged. It has to be leaned into. I’d rather rip the bandaid off than let it fester

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Anonymous #1 8w

Thank you for this insight. This is what I was looking for posting this. It’s very painful to just be ignored ya know

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Anonymous #2 8w

If you don’t start relationships because you know you’re gonna isolate yourself, then I have mad respect for you. Because the pain of being cut off when things are going well is so painful. And it gets me every single time like I’m getting emotional just thinking about it

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This is so real idek who I am bc I run from everyone including myself

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Anonymous OP 8w

Yes. I genuinely wish I could easily connect with people but I cannot and will most likely die alone :)

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Anonymous #2 8w

I think it takes not running. Sitting with that discomfort from being vulnerable and exposed. Nothing bad actually happens other than what is playing in the mind. It’s never as bad as the mind makes it out to be.

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Anonymous #2 8w

We heal by trying new things

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Anonymous OP 8w

Except sometimes what happens is worse than you could of imagined,(usually younger in life) and now I know that if I ever tell anyone again even the smallest chance of anything personal being used against me again is earth shattering.

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Anonymous #1 8w

Im not sure how to dissect that, but I’m really sorry that it had a traumatic effect on you :(

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Anonymous #1 8w

I have complex ptsd and I’m really hoping that this next therapist really helps because I have anger issues lol

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Anonymous OP 8w

Im scared to try therapy out again bc I went once and my parent and therapist ganged up against me just bc im gay :) literally ran out of the room and never went back even tho I needed it really fucking badly and was cutting myself and shit

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