Confessions on Yik Yak | ok i have been with my boyfriend now for over a year and i truly love him. i sometimes think about my ex to a point i think it’s unhealthy. we were on and off for many years and he went through a lot of trauma with me. he cheated on me a lot and when we

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ok i have been with my boyfriend now for over a year and i truly love him. i sometimes think about my ex to a point i think it’s unhealthy. we were on and off for many years and he went through a lot of trauma with me. he cheated on me a lot and when we

Anonymous 7w

broke up i was so done with him. but it’s been so long and i just don’t know what to do. i don’t want my ex back i do love my boyfriend so much but idk what to do

Anonymous 7w

girl ik how you feel. i’m single rn but sometimes the thoughts of my ex partner come up n i kinda miss them. even though they were so abusive to me (everything but hitting) i still think about them and i still hold love for them in my heart. i know ill never go back because i know they won’t change, but sometimes im afraid the thoughts of my ex will make finding and staying with a good person harder for me. it’s a hard thing to have attached to you, and i hope you’re able to get through this <3

Anonymous 7w

that and she has a baby. i can’t be a step mama at 20. i feel like she would’ve been out of my thoughts by now if it weren’t for the fact that i know she has a kid and i know how she is with children. i’m terrified for that kid but at the end of the day there’s nothing i can do.

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#2 7w

i think the push and pull games of people are what makes them harder to leave. like my boyfriend now is such a green flag and he is amazing in every way possible but i don’t feel the same love because my ex and i were so on and off and a rollercoaster that it made me so attached. i have good days and bad days where i never think of him and then days or weeks where all i do is think of him. i hope you get through this. the baby unfortunately is not your responsibility it just sucks you had to

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OP 7w

leave that way and i’m sorry

Anonymous

OP 7w

trauma rewires your brain it makes sense. your brain got used to that push and pull and learned that that was the norm, so now that you don’t have it your brain feels off. it’s hard to fix that rewiring, it takes a long time to fix but maybe if you talk to your bf about it he can help you work through it? if you’ve been together over a year then i’m sure he cares for you enough to want to help you get that peace of mind. just remember to make sure he knows as much as you can that it’s not becaus

Anonymous

OP 7w

you want your ex back but because of the psychological effects of trauma. and only do this if you feel like his help or if you feel like you’ll be okay by telling him.

Anonymous 7w

it’s something that can be worked on of course, the direction their life took and the things done to/by them likely resulted in this attachment style and that’s okay as long as they work on themselves and work to not hurt their partner :)

Anonymous

#2 7w

thank you for this. it most certainly is true he was my first boyfriend so i for sure need to try and fix things. i am starting to go to therapy and work through everything i just needed to get this off my chest

Anonymous

OP 7w

sometimes it’s good to vent to strangers, it’s comforting to hear from people who’ve been in similar places. ik i felt better about my situation hearing that you’re in a relationship of over a year. it shows me that even though i still think about my ex i can still get into a good relationship. you’ll make it through girl i believe in you 🫶